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HELP! WHATS HAPPENIMG TO ME?,! I HAD A TOTAL HYSTERECTOMY, INDUCING ME STRAIGHT INTO SEVERE AND EXTREME STATE OF MENOPAUSE !! SUFFERING FOR 6 MONTHS STILL ,AT Age 45! It's BEEN OVERWHELMING on ME,, both Mentally AND Physically !! I have every Symptom you can get and go thru,,,to the MAX, I Am DONE, KO'D!!! AND IT'S CAUSED PROBLEMS ,FOR MY WHOLE FAMILY NOW,, , in EVERY ASPECT of OUR LIVES ! ,,, I Have Not been able to go back to my Work YET, & it's been 6 Months Now!!! 😱 ,, My HORMONES are SEVERELY UNBALANCED,, OFF the-Charts!!,, & I Have NEVER HAD A WEIGHT ISSUE,,, EVER!!! until THIS HORRIBLE HORRIBLE HYSTERECTOMY! ,AWFUL (I WAS,, Very Active all My LIFE), NOT Anymore,& , I have gained 60 Pounds in 6 Months. (20 of that in just ONLY 6 weeks,,, post hysterectomy )!!UNBELIEVABLE.! & I Have tried, EVERYTHING!!! to help ALL OF MY SYMPTOMS, I'm Really SUFFERING! Problem also IS , I have NO ENERGY, lethargic, Always Sleepy, tired, but restless, horrible insomnia, I have no energy to even MAKE MYSELF EXERCISE ,it's HORRIBLE( And I HAVE NOT CHANGED my DIETARY HABITS, EXCEPT IN POSITIVE WAYS,, and I Have ALWAYS EATEN PRETTY HEALTHY, MODERATION OF MY SWEETS, CARBS,, FATS, SUGARS! ALWAYS! 🤔! BUT NOW I HAVE HAD these OVERWHELMING CRAVINGS! (AND ITS BEEN DIFFICULT,VERY HARD TO LOSE WEIGHT NOW , mixed with NO ENERGY &FATIGUE anxiety ,WEAKNESS, ,I'm UNABLE TO LOSE THIS WEIGHT, EVEn A POUND!! WHATS GOING ON, AND WHY!??? I FEEL LIKE I'M IN THE TWILIGHT ZONE! , It is all so very unreal to me I DONT EVEN RECOGNIZE MYSELF NOW, IM EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, MEDICALLY EXTREMELY IMBALANCED NOW ,CAN NOT CONTROL,,Since this hysterectomy(and induction of extreme, horrific MENOPAUSE ), I've been thrown into ,,,,, ( the horrible ,multi symptomatic,menopausal state I'm Staying in,Day& Night, NO ENDING! Symptoms, progressively Worsening,, the rapid ,Extreme in my Weight Gain of 60 lbs in 6 months!!!! ITS ABSOLUTELY UNBELIEVABLE ! My hot Flashes Are SO extreme, Severe, & Uncontrollable,,sudden onset & happening multi times an hour ,ALWAYS followed by an extreme COLD FREEZE',,, alllllllllll day/night 24/7, , THIS is enough to GO INSANE FRom,,It keeps me ISOLATED &STRESSED Out and miserably overwhelm,, so needless to say,, : my severe hot flashes, bad ,sudden mood swings ,very sudden onset and very often throughout the day and night,,that , I rarely leave our house, afraid of a panic attack , , SO BIZARRE BC I WAS ALWAYS ,textbook Pic, SOCIAL Butterfly,yet including alone, 'me, time', as to keep balanced, I was on the move all the time ,, all my life go go go, ,at every age and stage, I also took care my children, I drove anywhere and anytime ,with others, my kids, myself, also I worked , I was a very active runner ,from a young age 12,,, I WORKED OUT 6 DAYS A WK, FOR DECADES ,, I WAS ENERGETIC AND FUN, BUBBLY, OUTGOING, FRIENDLY, PATIENT, SUPPORTIVE, CHILL, LAUGHTER ALWAYS IN OUR HOME, FREE-SPIRITED, YOUTHFUL FEELING ! Always going places,,,, the Beach, Camping, Hiking, kayaking, Swimming, Biking, Movies, Plays,, Parties for the kids & and our Friends,, etc,!!!,And so,,,,, FAST FORWARD ,, past Year, TO PRESENT DAY,, AND I have TOTALLY ISOLATED MYSELF, from friends, people, places, ,, I don't drive right Now,bc of My often extreme, &sometimes unchecked anxiety,, which is SO STRANGE ,BIZARRE ,FOR ME to HAVE BECOME LIKE THIS, it's , Awful& I just DONT GET IT! ,, FEELS LIKE ALIEN BEINGS HAVE TAKEN OVER ME OR A ZOMBIE, STRAIGHT OUTA WALKING DEAD! ike an alien form has just taken over me,, including,, my mind body,&little spirit too, ,,is suffering drasticly, it's been so traumatic!! ,,I REALLY ONLY LEAVE HOME TWICE a Month,( & that's Only to a Drs appt,,,or just down the our St to a dollar general store,,, not even a WALMART anymore. !),, this is no WAY 'MY Normal !! Ive BECOME Fearful be around others or to see ANYONE ,or EXPLAIN what' all has happened with me in just UNDER 6 Months,,, the weight gain itself has been so hard!,, & social phobia that I have now,,, ITS ALL SO STRANGE!!!!,,, so I stay rather depressed ,to myself, all the time now, and been sleeping on our couch in our family living room, for Months now,, it's become a mock bedroom,for myself, I've about ran my family out of it, we're really All suffering thru this , (bc Moms so miserable ),, the couch is just much easier to jump up from, run out front door ,immediately go outside in The Cold, cool off ,& sweat Off my hot flashes thru the night, so not to wake up my family all night , every night ,& so i can throw off layers of my clothes right away,,,and keep a small fan,on high, plus ceiling fan too,) right beside me, & keep dry &wet wipes and washcloths ,waters, gatorades, etc right by me all times, but , then to only have to put all layers of my clothes right back on in minutes ,RIGHT AFTER I was just so severely flushed, HOT, and just completely POURING SWEAT all over , Then I get CHILLED /FROZEN, filled with complete panic and anxiety, all thru day/night ,for months on end now,, lasting anywhere from 5 to 20 min usually, continuously ,, the extreme cold freezes get to the point my body shakes and my teeth chatter!!!!, like I said,,,, so Bizarre to me, all of This!!!! And it only has gotten worse,,, IT has been continuously Destroying my world and everyone I'm close to,!!! Not much joy, any longer,in the house, I have no intimacy with husband, and honestly no desire r care too, anymore, it's SO awful, and that and my anxiety, anger, frustration ,&mood swings Cause us both to get into chronic and Intense ARGUMENS NOW ,,,BC I just seem to Stay so angry, bitter, sad, frustrated,OUT OF CONTROL Feeling, and just plain out pissed off and Anxious , or,all the above most the time!!, and MY self esteem is GONE !!! COMPLETELY GONE,,, , bc of All this!! ,esp with such a sudden onset ,& (unusual, for me, )weight gain! So I Stay emotionally and mentally Exhausted,,. All the Time !!! And Again, I say, I have tried Everything,and Anything I've known to,and found out to do ,, for Help!! (from extreme dietary changes, lifestyle ,yet very positive, changes needed,)and ,habits, etc, (meditation, yoga, breathing and stretching exercises, trying to stay with routines again,tried multi meds /supplements, vitamins, etc,,, also trying several expensive treatments,meds ,pills vitamins, supplements, etc,, online,, just about anything I would read about to try,,,, (and I've read ALOT, on this,,),,,,,, NOTHING HAS HELPED ME!!!!, I've even tried antidepressants, (natural and rx),,as well,,!!! I Have been truly truly Suffering!!! my anxiety,,,its off the charts and getting so SEVERE!!!! ,No matter what I do or try!!!! QUESTION TO ALL OF MY FELLOW SPARK WOMEN,,,,,,PLEASE,,, , DOES ANYONE OUT HERE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR ME,,,,,??!???,,ANY ADVISE, OR HELP, Or Alt RECOMMENDATIONS, ETC?!?!???,,, BC I'm in Desperate need of it,, any encouragement and motivation at this point,,,,, I've all but given up, I feel knocked down, But I'm NOT yet defeated!!!,,,, I'am the,, feeling like I'm on my last bit of Hope,,,however, But I'm trying so very ,very hard to hang on to any last bit of hope I have left in my Being,,, for my family,, ( I do Not really have any women( grandmother's, no mother(acfually ,just lost my father and mother just passed away , within this past year as well as this menopause terror,,, sooooooo,,NO Mom,, r mother in laws(dead also),, aunts, no cousins, etc,, ,family/friends ,in my life now),, to talk to, about this,or just to vent with at times,, ,,& maybe support system , or receive advise and encouragement from,,! It would be nice to have a little bit Of that , not gonna lie!! So, there's my story this Past year ,,,up to present day, sadly,, yessssssss,,, it's not so good right now,,, Although,, I'am still HOPEFUL,, it Will get better, and maybe get advise on any other Treatments available,, ,and ways to cope better ( bc it seems like any & All coping skills I had Developed in life,, have Vanished,right from my foggy, unclear, chaotic, mind, at The present moment,,! Would feel nice to have a feeling of some clarity /understanding really,, support,,,,Hopefully!😊 ,,Thanks for listening y'all,,,, much love! !PEACE and BLESSINGS!!😇

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    Consider seeking medical help. Possibly replacement hormones until you get through this stage. Wishing you all the best, keep in touch. We are here for you. 💜
    381 days ago
    Try to understand that these feelings will pass. It’s a difficult phase, but it will pass. When your emotions flare, gently remind yourself you will get through this.
    381 days ago
    Dad here - Heather, I’m glad that you reached out for help. This is the place to go for help. It’s awesome that Spark is here for people in need, as you are. You had a lot to get out, and I’m glad you had the opportunity to do that.
    381 days ago
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    406 days ago