Sunday, November 23, 2008
My family has been going through some immense trials the past few months. Due to circumstances beyond our control our life has been turned upside down. This has been the impetus for a very long, hard look in the mirror. In the past there was no obstacle that I couldn't overcome. I could accomplish ANYTHING through sheer will power. Somewhere along the line I lost myself. I keep getting defeated. I would tell myself that life is just getting in the way of life. My priorities had been skewed. I forgot to take care of myself first. I spent the last few years taking care of everyone around me. Making sure they were okay, and putting my needs on the back burner. I let silly things get in the way of my goals. I'm 25 years old. I have a lot of years ahead of me. There is no better time than NOW to go after what I want. But a serious priority adjustment is in order.
If I put even half as much effort into myself as I do in others, there isn't anything I can't do. I am no good to anyone if I don't take care of myself first. Not just physically, but emotionally as well. All my goals are entwined. I can't accomplish one without the others, so I better get to work.
1. PUT MYSELF FIRST-I am important. I am worth every stitch of effort I can muster.
2. SAYING "NO"-I stopped making time for myself. I let work, family, and friends take away from the time I spent on myself. I'm learning to say "No." I learned this week that "No." is a complete sentence. If someone wants me to do something that interferes with my other priorities, I'm going to say "No."
3. MAKING TIME-If something is important, there's time for it. I may not like to wake up early, but I'm going to start my day off right. If I wake up 90 minutes earlier than I do now, I can work-out in the morning, have time for a healthy breakfast, get the kids out the door, and still get to work on time. This will allow me to better prepare for my day. Plus, it will encourage me to go to bed at a decent time. If I have my priorities in mind at all times, I can pick and choose what is worth my time, and what isn't.
These goals will help me with my more specific life goals. If I can keep my eye on the prize, I can get healthy, I can get my debts paid down, I can finish my degree, I can buy a house, I can have a child of my own. If I put myself first, I can be a better me and in turn, a better wife, a better step-mom, a better friend. If I am happy and healthy, the people around me will be too. I CAN DO THIS! I AM STRONG! I AM DETERMINED!