SOCIAL FAUX PAS???

So, as most of my friends who commonly read my blog already know, I am participating in a 5K on June 28th. On Monday I did the 2.75 miles for the first time and missed my "goal time" by 7 seconds and stood on the treadmill and wiped away tears while my friend (on the next treadmill) consoled me. Why do those times and goals mean so much to me? My friend tried to tell me that those are just numbers that I picked out of thin air and that I shouldn't be so upset if I don't hit my goal... but the reason I set those goal times was because I KNOW that I can complete it that fast... but then I slow down too many times and I don't get it and I get angry and upset with myself. If I don't set goals then I won't push myself to try hard. Point blank. I mean, I am an inherently lazy person, so by setting goals I am challenging myself... which I thought was a good thing but now everyone and their mother is telling me to not push myself so hard. What? Just a few months ago everyone, myself included, was telling me that I should challenge myself - and now I am and no one but me is supportive of it. What the heck, people?

Well, Monday was bad because I did the 2.75 in 41:22 (instead of my goal of 41:15). But today i pushed it just a little harder and set some boundaries for myself of how much I could slow down when my leg was hurting (yep, I mentioned it about a month ago and I still think i have a stress fracture in my left tibia). So, I pushed through the pain and completed the 2.75 miles in 41:02 - both making the goal time and beating my last time by 20 seconds. I was very happy about that. Leg still hurts... but it was worth it. Now, I know that I will have people telling me that I should rest or have a doctor look at it, but NO CAN DO cuz I have a 5K to complete. Then I can rest.

So a couple of weeks ago I was telling my friend about it. This woman calls herself my best friend both to my face and in front of groups of people. Now, my husband is my best friend. But for quite a while I would have considered her my best girlfriend... but I am having a harder and harder time being able to say that lately (actually, for the last couple years). We frequently butt heads and I find that I am always the one who has to back down or shut up or just keep my opinions to myself to avoid conflict. Most of the time we can get along alright, though. So, when I was telling her about my 5K and what it's for, she understood why this benefit run for Epilepsy was so important to me. She's been supportive in my struggle with my seizures over the last few years. I asked her if she was interested in walking in it just to be supportive of the cause. Now, for "personal" medical reasons I won't explain, she has been told by her doctor NOT to run, jog, jump or anything that is jarring in any way. And any time I have wanted her to do something that might include one of those actions she has been quick to pull out the "my doctor said I can't" card. But when I said she should WALK for the 5K - I think her competitive streak kicked in and she's insisting on running - but she doesn't run. She doesn't even really like to walk. So anyway, I asked her and she says that she will probably run instead and that her hubby may do it too (and he's in decent shape so I think he'll do fine). I told her that I'd send her the link for registration and I told her that our team name is NO REGRETS and that if she signs up by a certain date she will get a shirt with the team name printed on it. She says, "Oh, well we'll probably just make our own team and team name." I told her, "Oh, well, I was inviting a few more people and I was thinking that since this is a benefit for epilepsy you could all join my team and we could do it together in a big group and all support each other and all work toward one fundraising goal together too." To which she says, "We'll see, " which always means "I think your idea is lame and I'll pretend I am thinking about it and then I'll say no anyway."

I sent her an email with the link and also wrote, "Thanks for being willing to join us and support me as I do my first 5K and raise money to benefit this cause that is so close to my own heart. Just be sure to type NO REGRETS when it asks the team name."

I texted her yesterday and asked if she registered. She said yes and I asked under what name. MONKEYSPIT. Yep. You read that right. So, not only did she hurt me by completely ignoring my request, but she has now turned this into a competition - and her team has a ridiculous name.

I am hurt.
I am insulted.
I am a little angry.
I would NEVER do that to her or any other friend.
Is this girl even my friend at all?
What kind of friend does this?

My husband is angry at her (mostly because she has hurt me so badly) and another friend is in shock that she would even have the nerve to do this after my 2 requests that all of us go together as one cohesive team.

So I ask you... is this a complete social faux pas? I would never even think of make up my own team if a friend asked me to join them on a benefit run (especially if I knew the cause was very special to them). Am I making too big of deal about this? Or is this a true insult?

My hubby and another friend think I should confront her about it. My brother thinks I should put it behind me and move on (though he is a "sweep it under the rug" kind of person and I am not). I just have a feeling that if I do tell her how I feel she will try to argue her point, still not understand where I am coming from, call the organization and have them added to my team and then she'll be all bitter about it. I don't want her to change what she's done. I just want her to know how much she's hurt me. I am NOT a sweep it under the rug kind of girl - except with her. I just don't want to get into it with her... but is there a chance she really doesn't get it?

Okay... I've vented now. But I really would like to hear opinions on this. Was what my friend did wrong? And what would you do about it if you were me?