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Thursday, November 05, 2009

It seems there is always trouble in paradise...

My DH has been having some problems for the last several months dealing with my problems, and it's all coming to a head... for a long time he just wouldn't talk about what's been bothering him. I thought for a while it was because of his business problems (he's self-employed, does business service sales for various companies and things have been very slow because of the economy...)

Now, it turns out that he's feeling like "less of a man" because I hurt and there's nothing he can do about it! Thing is, there's nothing anyone can do, and it's hard on everyone involved, he just takes it personally. At least now he's talking about it, and he has switched his schedule around so we can have a "date" scheduled on Friday nights from now on~ so we can work on things. We've been together almost 20 yrs and it's hard to see things going the way they are... something has to change. But then, life's about changing, nothing ever stays the same.

I don't know where it's going to end up, but I love him so much... Change is a good thing. Whatever happens, I know we're both going to be fine...

Kathy
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  • AZERET0521
    Communication is critical in relationships. I'm so glad you are working on that.

    I have a similar situation. The more I get frustrated with my studies the more my guy gets frustrated that there's nothing he can do to help me. I tried to explain to him that I wouldn't be a good student if I weren't concerned about my grades. That didn't seem to make any difference.

    The one thing that did make a difference, as you are doing with your Friday night date, was to set some time aside to just be together. It's not as often as I'd like but it gives both of us a chance to focus on what's positive rather than what's wrong.

    Good luck!
    4097 days ago
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