I was reading someone's blog this morning, and she was talking about trying to quit having a love affair with a particular food... and it reminded me of something else I'd been reading. (A lot of reading going on at my house lately! LOL)
Because I have specific medical issues directly affected by my food choices, this has been a real challenge.
When ever we pay attention to something, positively OR negatively, we are giving energy to it.
Guess what happens when someone tells you not to think about elephants. Guess where your thoughts go! LOL And then, of course, whatever it is you are saying you don't want takes the (negative) energy you're giving it and manifests itself in your life.
Whenever I decide to stop eating a particular food, suddenly it is EVERYWHERE! The cheescake samples being given away at the grocery store bakery... the huge slice of cherry pie being consumed by the people at the table next to me in a restaurant... and it's also suddenly the one thing in the world that I really WANT! LOL
I've made it harder for myself by trying to deny it, adding vigorous energy to my thoughts of not having it~ and doing so perpetuates the thoughts! It becomes a cycle.
I found that the best way for me is not necessarily denial. Instead, I concentrate on the things that are good for me that I have also learned to love. The savory flavor of salmon or cod adorned by lemon slices and freshly ground pepper, the taste and texture of whole grains, the refreshing sweet tang of ripe berries or the juicy crunch of an apple, the creamy richness of a ripe avocado... and I don't miss out on the "goodies" either. I plan them.
Yes, that's right. Thank goodness for SparkPeople, because now I can plan my menus ahead of time to include all these wonderful things... and I add what some may consider indulgences, in their place and in suitable portions... but to me they are now just foods, with their own contributions to make to my nutrient needs. A slice of cheese has essential calcium, and I reduce the fat elsewhere. An ounce of rich, dark chocolate is chock full of antioxidants. The sugar in it is a carb that gets taken into account in my daily total.
It seems to me that by placing my attention on ALL the wonderful things I can have, I don't see what used to be treats as that any more... and I don't really care if I eat them or not.
Because of all this, I realized recently that a lot of the "New Age" things I read when I was growing up must have had a greater impact on this process than I ever realized. Those funky old books actually had a great deal of truth to them.
Let me think, what's that old quote... hm...
"Eat to live, don't live to eat."
Someone gave my hubby a copy of "THE SECRET", which we have been reading together
... and it actually just confirmed all this for me.
In a nutshell... the best way for me to deal with an addiction (even to food LOL) is to stop feeding it attention by paying attention to the alternatives instead...