The Good, The Bad and The Ugly
Monday, February 08, 2010
In my early years as a preschool teacher, I worked at a school that used a discipline method called the 90 second discipline. The principle is you the first 30 seconds telling the student what they did wrong and the impact their actions have/had on others. You use the next 30 seconds to tell them something positive about their character that makes you believe they are capable of using better judgment. The last 30 seconds are an action plan for what you expect from them in future. This technique can be very effective when used properly and don't try to use it to bring shame and quilt. So, here is your warning. I am getting ready to use this technique to process some gunk I have been working through.
I know better than to allow my addiction to the number on the scale to control me feelings. It is a futile and senseless ritual that I perform every morning. I want to bash that stupid piece of equipment to smithereens!!!!
The scale does not measure my value or worth. It is not an accurate measure of my progress. I am losing inches, getting smaller, tighter and more compact. I like the way my body feels, I like being strong, healthy and energetic.
I expect to be able to feel healthy and strong without using the scale as a tool to validate my success. This one obsessive habit has plagued me long enough. I will ask my husband to help me to only weigh in once a week.
Post Note: I've been struggling with the same couple pounds for a while now. As my training increases I have problems balancing being anabolic (gaining muscle) and being catabolic (losing weight). My son (21) was visiting this weekend and he was helping me process this. He asked me why the number was such a big issue to me when it was obvious I was getting smaller and more tone. I told him, when people ask "how much weight have you lost?" they judge your success by how big that number is and I have been stuck at the same number for a while. "Hmmm", he said "so, you would rather have a smaller number on the scale, that only you see, than a smaller more tone body that everyone can see your success?" "Maybe you could have a low weight and a bigger body, would that make you happy?" Obviously NOT!!!