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Waiting to Weigh

Friday, February 12, 2010

I asked my family to help me with a 'scale intervention’ I needed it. I had gotten into the habit of stepping on the scales every day. Sometime two and three times a day. In the morning, before a run, after a run, before bed. Why? I don’t know why, but that is what I was doing. Some if it is probably rooted in a long love hate relationship I have had with food and my body image. But, I will not play psychologist here and now. Those thoughts are in my journal.

So, I was sharing with a friend that now that I am in “ONEderland” I don’t have anything to prove by stepping on the scale. I have proven to myself that I know how to lose weight. So he asked, “Why do you do it then?” Because I am compelled to, it is a habit. Also, people ask “How much have you lost” . . . that is a number used to measure whether you have successfully lost enough weight to justify praise. He said “Stop it. Don’t do it anymore.” Again, I said “I can’t stop it.” He said, “You just told me you ran 5 miles without walking and yet you can’t will yourself to stop doing something that you know you should not be doing. Bull.”

After that conversation, I thought about my goals for this next year. Not a one of them has a thing to do with the number on the scale. I did have the goal of getting below 200 lbs. That was a huge psychological hurdle. I still have 30 lbs. I’d like to lose, but that can come off anytime over the next year. It is not my focus. Now I want to focus on my training for the half marathon. That means fuelling well. Before I upped my calories in the middle of January, I was always exhausted and just on the edge of coming down with something. I was so close to my weight goal and I kept cutting my calories back or increasing my cardio to ‘make it happen’. And it just would not happen. Now I know I need the proper fuel and that I can lose weight while eating more. The fear and stress are gone. Also, training for a distance or endurance activity puts an increased load on your body each week. That causes inflammation which is a necessary part of the recovery process. I don’t want to be freaking out about inflammation and sabotaging my recovery.

So, now I will weigh on Tuesday morning only, until my Biggest Loser Challenge is over. Then I plan to weigh in no more than twice a month. I must say that I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I feel very relaxed. My last weigh in was on Tuesday, the day I entered Onederland, my lowest weight in almost 10 years. I don’t have to see the number on the scale to feel that my body is getting tone and tight. I feel smaller every day. That feeling is worth a million bucks and I will not allow myself to be robbed of that confidence and victory by stepping on the scale.

P.S. I depended on my scale everyday when I first started. It was a helpful tool to help me see how my body reacted to dietary and activity changes. For instance, if I had a three pound gain in one day, I would review what I ate the day before, realizing that it was impossible to have actually gained 3lbs. in one day. This is how I learned to lower my sodium and to increase my potassium. I am not suggesting that anyone should stop weighing. It is just the right choice for me at this time. A month ago, it would not have been the right choice.
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    Thanks for this blog,
    I want to wean from the scale too, at the moment I weigh once a day (*morning) but I think it will take time for me to "TRUST MYSELF! "....when I get to that point , I will be able to weigh in once a week ....
    thanks for your insight
    wishing you all the best!
    3864 days ago
    I truly believe that looking at the number on the scale is a habit and it is hard to break like any other habit. That is one of the reasons I've chosen, like you, to only weigh in twice a month. When I finish my detox week, I will weigh, measure and take pics. Then after the first month, I will weigh again....so hopefully, I will get to where I really don't care about that number either. Right now, it's going to be right for me as I'm about to take that journey again to get back to where "I" feel my healthiest. Thanks for this great blog.
    3866 days ago
  • TABETHA2005
    I actually made it a goal of mine to go one whole month without weighing, and I achieved that goal. Now I am back to weighing almost every day, and I would really like to stop. I don't want to beat myself up over missing an exercise session or gaining 3 pounds in a day (like you said, impossible). I tend to judge my happiness and motivation by what the scale says so I definitely need to give it a break.

    Good luck kicking your scale habit. I know you can do it!!!
    3868 days ago
    Carolyn, I can relate so much to the scale addiction. It's almost like a food addiction. I had to put the scale in the closet to stop weighing. On the bright side, at least it isn't a harmful to the body addiction, like smoking or drugs!
    3869 days ago
  • IXCHEL23
    emoticon and emoticon to being in ONEDERLAND!!

    I did a blog last week you are welcomed to read about the same subject dealing with the scale. I'm feeling better now after dealing with that issue! The title of the blog is "Enough Scale, I Control How I Feel not You"

    I'm now learning alot about sodium and just started to monitor it in my tracker.

    Have a great Valentines day, like your background!

    3869 days ago
    You are doing so good. I know what you mean about getting into Onederland. When I hit that goal, it was like the heavens parted and sunshine came down. We can get too wrapped up in the battle on the scale if we let ourselves.

    3869 days ago
    I'm kind of in the same place, only I'm now weighing a couple times a week rather than multiple times a day. The increases on the scale were never so discouraging to me, as I recognize that's it's generally water weight, the the obsession is something I can live without. And once again, congratulations on reaching Onederland!
    3869 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4945300
    Thanks for lettin me know I'm not the only one wh weighs everyday.
    GEEISH I can't lose 1 stinkin pounds.
    emoticon to you!!

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    3869 days ago
    good job and figuring out whats going to work for you and make you happy. Sometimes weighing in once a week makes you feel better because you are still seeing the scale move down, but its not something that you have to worry about everyday.

    I hope everything works out and I hope you stick with this cause it seems to me you are happy with your decision :)

    Keep up the good work!
    3869 days ago
    Good for you! We are more than just a number on a scale. With your physical training and healthy eating habits, you will get down to the right size for you. emoticon
    3870 days ago
    I'm cheering for your half marathon training. It's the most rewarding goal I've ever worked towards. Kind of addicting LOL! And you're probably wise to ignore the scale for a while and listen to your body, especially when you start logging 8+ miles at a time.

    In my Galloway running school last Saturday, Jeff told us a trick for beating the increased appetite. Make sure you eat 200-300 calories within 30-ish minutes of finishing your run. Those calories should be 80% simple carbs (quick absorption) and 20% protein. Apparently our body needs to restore depleted glycogen reserves and will send out signals accordingly. I can attest to many a Saturday spent eating, eating, eating after a long one last year because I didn't do this.

    Congrats again on reaching ONEderland!
    3870 days ago
    Question- How does upping potassium help your body? I have been hearing alot about potassium lately but need to know why! Thanks mucho Carolyn!!!


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    3870 days ago
    I too am a scale hopper, so I recently had my son take BOTH of them I have and HIDE them until the end of the month. I let him know too, that no matter how much I whine, scream or threaten him with bodily harm that he is, under NO circumstances, to get them out until the designated date. So, the last time I was on the scale to weigh was the 26th or 28th...

    On one hand, it is very freeing, the other...I still wish I could jump on that scale. For the time being I am just surrendering to the process....eating within my guidelines and exercising to burn what I need to.

    I'm working my way to Onderland and I just felt like I was driving myself crazy with that scale and that needed to change....I haven't even cheated and jumped on the scales at the gym either....but only because I hate their scales LOL

    3870 days ago
    Unfortunately, I am still in the need to weigh-in weekly, not just because of the Biggest Loser challenge, but because I need it to help me guide my process. I don't want it to define me, by any means, but as a tool to help me makes changes if I need to. I can use the number to help me determine if I need to get back on track or not and what I have been doing good and what may not be working for me. I hope to be happily along in my progress and near my ideal goal weight by the time the Biggest Loser is over and well on my way to not using the scale for frequently.

    I used to weigh myself every day, but after reading "The Spark", I noticed that I didn't have to weigh-in every day and I have felt great ever since doing it.

    I agree with the other Sparker (Karlyn), you are a "HERO". You do such amazing things and help so many people. You are truly one of a kind and the best.

    Blessings to you for your progress.
    3870 days ago
    You have done such powerful work. You look great. I am so inspired by your desire to run a marathon. I am planning to run a 5K by the summer. Thanks for sharing your journey.
    3870 days ago
    3870 days ago
    You do what ever you feel like doing!! You da boss!!! I like to weigh in daily just because it helps me to stay accountable. But I try not to during TOM. It is frustrating then. I don't do as well once a week. But like you said... you need to focus on training and what your body needs!!!! I don't care if you weigh in anymore now that you are in onederland!! You got hero status in my golden book!! XOXOXOXOX Karlyn
    3870 days ago
  • TDOBBS74
    Good for you!
    3870 days ago
  • no profile photo CD4944022
    AMEN! I totally agree with that last paragraph you wrote my friend. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I'm 26 lbs. down BUT I don't solely rely on the scale to measure my progress. emoticon to you for all that you've achieved. You're truly an inspiration. Keep up the AWESOME work!!!! emoticon emoticon
    3870 days ago
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