Negativity and Choices...
Tuesday, April 06, 2010
Someone on SP today mentioned that she didn't know how to deal with a person at the gym who walked by and snickered at her... and as I typed in my response, I realized that we all face situations when other people's opinions get in the way of where we want our lives to go... like my DH's business associate offering a promised territory to someone else to try and force a move to California. DH had already agreed to help him move his office, or he'd cut off association now--but he won't allow himself to be manipulated or controlled that way... and that's what we do when we allow someone's 'snickering' or negativity to affect the way we feel. We give them power over us.
I know it isn't the easiest thing in the world to face down criticism, and it seems worse when it's from a stranger. Somehow, we can more easily discount the opinions of people we know well.. maybe BECAUSE we know them, and we know how they react to things as well.
I guess what it boils down to is that we choose our responses in ANY situation... a hard thing to accept and harder to live by, but it is the truth and here is what I said--and the promise to myself that I am making for my future:
Life is about choices. Period. Whether we make them consciously or not is pretty much up to us... I choose to keep the vision of my own perfection process in the forefront. I choose to see MYSELF as learning and growing and getting healthier. I choose to ignore someone else's negativity. I choose to believe what I see in my own eyes in the mirror--the dreams, the determination, the love-- over accepting others' negativity... I choose to accept responsibility for my own actions-- and reactions-- and I choose to believe that we're all doing the best we have with what we've got. Even those who snicker. They have something lacking in their lives or they would not act that way.
We're all unique and marvelous creatures, and deserve respect-- even those who snicker. When I see someone out of shape (like me LOL) and working hard at something, I admire them--and when people are rude or conscending, they are cutting themselves off from the possibility of some wonderful experiences, so I feel sorry for them...
And I may have limitations, but I'll explore them and push the envelope-- yes, I'm still dreaming, working toward my goals, doing my best, with or without them.
And you can too.