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How do you motivate

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

a child who doesn't want to be motivated?? I can see my daughter going down the path to becoming an overweight adult. I know the struggles.

I'd love to help her switch it around but I know if I say anything, it will lead to resistance on her part, probably making everything worse.

Right now I'm just trying to lead by example and provide her with only nutritious foods to choose from. I do encourage physical activity but I never force anything.

I'm worried for her as she enters high school now. I feel like time is running out to teach her how to take control of her own health as an adult. I also want her to be able to enjoy high school without having to worry about body image and things like that, when it comes time for proms and boys and being able to wear fun clothes. Those things are important in the life of a teenage girl.

Any ideas?

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    Have her join you so it's something that you guys are doing together and so that she knows she has your support. On the other hand, depending on the situation, you may need to step in and just make it so that she learns good habits. Setting a good example is great, but occasionally parents just need to step up to the plate and ensure their kids make good decisions. Then, reward the good behavior/choices with something she would enjoy that also supports those kinds of choices (a new shirt or tickets to an outdoor concert).

    I think it's very important to be sure you are with your child in this, but also don't allow her to set herself up for failure. Kids are not thinking long term (as in, how will this affect me 5, 10, or 20 years down the road) and sometimes the adults need to make sure proper decisions are made - and if the kids refuse to do so, then sometimes you just have to make it that way until they are mature enough to do so on their own.
    3810 days ago
    Find an activity that you two can do together that makes it not seem like exercise. Ask her if she can help you in your journey by being your partner. Make it seem as if she is only doing this to help you, but in the process will be helping herself. Let her pick the activity so that she is doing something she enjoys.
    3810 days ago
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    I think the only thing you can do is set a good example, and not keep unhealthy food around the house.
    3810 days ago
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