I so appreciate this Spark community. There are so many 'friends' I have made here. Some I have met in person.
I love my friendships here and the ones that have grown to include Facebook and Fabulous Fitness. I sometimes forget just how blessed I am to have this community and start wanting something more. I start looking for people who are pushing the envelope and making things happen in a different way that will challenge me to look at myself in different ways. I purposely try to push myself outside of my comfort zone to enjoy a different perspective.
So, after seeing the posts of some others who were using a body building site, I got curious and decided to check it out. The first time I visited the site, the first impression was "this is a meat market". And I immediately exited. Then I just kept hearing about the site, and I thought 'maybe I wasn't fair, maybe I need to read some threads, get involved and see what is going on here'. All I can say is, it is always a good idea to follow your gut feeling. The first day that I set up my profile I immediately got four friend request, all from big beefy looking guys with names like BigMac and JumboJoe. And the comments to me were "You look hot"!
I'm sorry. I cannot express how this saddened my heart. It made me feel cheap and not appreciated as a person. Don't get me wrong, I love feeling hot and sexy and get a kick out of making those kind of comments to my girlfriends who I 'know' here on Spark or in person. But this made me feel like I had just performed a pole dance and was being thanked for doing a good job. The kicker is, I was fully dressed in the picture so it's not like I was modeling a bikini or showing off my body.
When I scanned through the menu trying to find some women my age that I could connect with they all had profile pictures that looked like porn and names like '2hot4U' or some other name that sounds like they might have another 'profession'. And they are in their underwear in suggestive poses that make it evident that they shave very well. I am saddened.
I love my healthy, strong, toned body and I love that my husband is attracted to it. I love my lingerie and how it looks on me and feel. But that is for me and for my husband. I don't need the whole world to see what I got and think that it cheapens what I got to put it out there for whole world to see. Some parts of my body should be exclusive to only my most intimate relationship. I love the way my husband makes me feel beautiful and that he is attracted to me.
I have seen enough to know that I am right were I am supposed to be, right here in my Spark community. With the mommies who are making it happen despite time struggles, with the grammies who are rediscovering their health and fitness, with the college girls and young women who are making food choices for themselves for the first time and finding a healthy life, with the wives of husbands in the military, with the single moms, with the divorced women, with the women who are finding that their is beauty, strength, fierceness and greatness inside of them no matter what their current size or shape.
I love YOU and I want to be here more than I want to be most anywhere else. I am honored to be amongst such greatness and bow at your beauty and strength.