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LIVE FOR TODAY--STAY IN THE PRESENT (most of you can relate to this blog)

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

I read a blog of a dear friend and was praying for her. I didn’t know how to comment on her blog. I got back out this book and God led me to this page and I thought allot of people could probably benefit from me sharing this.

Live for Today—Stay in the present

“I will be happy when ________” - You fill in the blank. How many times have you said these words: “I will be happy when I lose weight”, “I will be happy when I get a new job”, “I will be happy when I get married” ? These and thousands of other such statements, postpone your happiness, which lowers your self-esteem. You are telling yourself that you don’t deserve to be happy until a certain event happens. What you are really saying is that you aren’t good enough right now, today, to be happy. And when the long-awaited event does occur, there will always be another and another. This makes it impossible for you to ever achieve happiness and high self-esteem unless you begin to accept yourself today.

Making outer conditions responsible for your happiness puts you on a roller coaster of emotions. If you feel good only when things go your way, you are left miserable a great deal of the time. As long as your happiness is tied into the achievement of future goals, you will never be satisfied. You will always need more to be happy. And if your need more, then you are telling yourself that you are not good enough. This damages your self-esteem.

While goals, dreams, wishes, and fantasies play a necessary part in your life, even adding to your self-esteem, it is important that you live for right now. You are perfect just as you are at this very moment. Sure, there are things you would like to work on, but you are still a worthwhile, beautiful person just as you are today.

Right now, make a list of five positive characteristics or traits about yourself. Whatever it is, write it down. Keep this list in a safe place and refer to it when you start thinking of all the things you don’t have. Give yourself permission to be happy and have high self-esteem TODAY.

Taken from the book “Why Can’t I Stop Eating?” by Dr. Debbie Danowski.

My eating plan is from this book. (see 9-17 blog for it).

My personal history that helps me relate to this blog… I have spent many many years saying “WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT I WILL BE HAPPY”
WHEN I LOSE WEIGHT I will go to the lake with my kids
“ “ “ “ I will have a better marriage.
“ “ “ “ I will get out more and not be such a recluse.

I cannot tell you the number of days, weeks, years I spent thinking this way!

ALLOT of wasted time I CAN tell you that!

Sadly… I am not sure WHY I went year after year miserable in my own skin. I can’t tell you WHY I didn’t do something about it??

I spent more time PLANNING on doing something then ACTUALLY doing something!
Can anyone out there relate?

I honestly thought if I didn’t keep saying this or thinking about my weight then I might just become satisfied with being overweight and just NEVER try to do something about it! I felt like I had to keep beating myself up over it to try to SELF –LOATHE MYSELF INTO DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT… How twisted is that? How unhealthy is that?

And maybe there is a day we get so disgusted with ourselves that we resolve to finally DO something about it……???? Maybe??

I do remember this… that constant replay in my mind was so tiring.. and it played over and over like a broken record!

I have NOW learned that losing weight doesn’t fix everything…
Losing weight doesn’t make everything that was wrong in my life ok….
Losing weight didn’t make my marriage become magically better!

Losing weight DID help with my confidence so that I stood up for myself in my marriage!

Losing weight DID help me have a better outlook towards my life in general.

Losing weight DID make me realize that looking better is good but FEELING BETTER is really the prize!

Hugs to all of you!
Thanks for reading!

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    3486 days ago
    AS I am reading this I am reminded of my conversation with my daughter on Sunday. I'm always telling her "things will get better when" I usually do add in how things have gotten better previously until now. I need to focus on teaching her how to be happy in the moment as you have written about. Eventually it will come naturally and things will feel easier & happier because of it. Until then It's a little work, but the rewards and peace of mind are great.
    3512 days ago
    I couldn't read this entire blog. I'm going through this right now. I'm still denying that I'm waiting. But my heart knows the truth. I'm glad you shared this message. emoticon
    3514 days ago
    Great message!!!! One I need to hear over and over. Thanks!
    3514 days ago
    Have I told you lately, that I LOVEEEE YOUUUU!!!???!!! emoticon IF NOT...I DO....MERCY SAKE ALIVE I DO LOVE YOU and your BLOGS ARE THE... emoticon emoticon emoticon . You speak the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!!! High five my dear friend, Soul sister in faith for yet another heart touching blog! emoticon
    3516 days ago
  • SPARKIE1964
    Amen sista! I can relate to everything you say...Embracing the moment IS one of my life's goals....
    3518 days ago
  • DSJB9999
    Another emoticon blog, thanks for sharing!

    I did need reminding of this.
    emoticon Donna x
    3518 days ago
    Nice! Thanks!
    3518 days ago
  • LESLIES537
    emoticon blog!!! emoticon
    3518 days ago
    You inspired me to buy this book a couple of weeks ago. I was up late last night reading more. I have known I have trigger food but have no really considered it "Binging". I think saying I am a food addict versus just eat too much is a difficult next step. But I have resisted jumping ahead in the book. Thanks for letting me follow along behind you and see the blogs of your friends and your comments. emoticon
    3518 days ago
    WOW I can totally relate to this! I have done this all my life and still do at times. Its a horrible and difficult habit to break from. Thank you for sharing this! I would like to share this as well so others may benefit from it!
    3518 days ago
    3518 days ago
    You hit the nail on the with the whole "waiting" comments. I have been waiting my whole life. In high school, I could not wait for college, in college, I could not wait to have a career...and so on and so on.

    It has taken me awhile to figure this out after finding SP but no more waiting, it is now or never and I am the one who is not waiting any longer for life to happen.

    Thanks for reminding me that every day is a blessing. emoticon
    3519 days ago
  • no profile photo CD7748096
    I can totally relate, as you know. :) Like you, I've spent half a lifetime planning the weight loss and only a few months actually doing it! And no, losing weight won't make everything in your life seem suddenly better, but as you said, the self-confidence it gives you can sure change many things. :) And the FEELING better and being healthier is definitely the prize. This is a great blog!
    3519 days ago
    What a fantastic blog!! Thanks so much for sharing emoticon
    3519 days ago
    Phil. 4:12 - Reminder to us all to learn to be content in plenty and in want. Happiness is a choice. Thanks for the post!
    3519 days ago
  • BAKER1009
    Thank you for posting this Sherlyn! It is just what I needed to read to remind me of my goals in life. Not just weight loss goals, but education goals, career goals, family goals, etc. I am HAPPY! I am happy today and nothing is holding me back from that. Do I expect to be elated when I meet so many of the goals I have set? Absolutely! But if one of them doesn't get met, well that doesn't determine my happiness. It doesn't determine who I am.
    Thank you!!
    3519 days ago
    wonderful! thanks for sharing
    3519 days ago
    From the bottom of my heart thank you- you spoke to me! I needed to read this :) emoticon
    3519 days ago
  • no profile photo CD1345136
    What a wonderful blog. My dear sweet sister is living each moment in the present and appreciating every day. She's facing her mortality with terminal illness and has decided not to waste one minute by lamenting over the past or anticipating the future. In her dance with death, she's teaching me how to live.
    3519 days ago
    emoticon Blog and what a way to share how you feel with us.
    This is what I have on my page and I live by it every day.

    “Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.” ~Mark Victor Hansen

    Believe me my friend we all have our struggles thank you for being open and sharing your life with others. Sandy
    3519 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5959732
    Awesome blog that I am sure many can relate to. I used to struggle with that very thing, but through prayer and friendship have overcome those feelings. It is very freeing to love who you are now. Thanks for such a great blog!
    3519 days ago
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