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Negative vs Positive: Why the Battle??

Saturday, July 16, 2011

I have read a few blogs lately discussing how everyone on this site seems to be ultra positive and not show their down times. I have found this really interesting and wanted to respond.

I am pretty much the Queen of Anti-Fake and I really find fake people hard work. I am generally known as the most un-judgmental person you will ever meet (dunno if that is really true!!) but I know I am much more accepting of people than others (hence why I have more than a few juvenile delinquents in my group of loved ones). So I know a fake and I generally find them hard work.

Here's my thing.

I really struggle to set and keep goals and be positive about myself. So....

I FAKE IT TILL I MAKE IT. Before you think WTF was all that above about let me rephrase that:


And for me, SP is the place to practice that personal goal-setting and positivity. I often have to be the stoic one in real life so I really enjoy logging in and seeing everyone trying to better themselves and practice some positive self-talk.

Don't get me wrong I find heartfelt "negative" blogs moving and amazing and I actually feel so so proud of people blogging their hard times and struggles but for me I need to practice positive here and move it outwards into my real life.

So I guess what I want to say is that practicing positivity is no less "real" than the down times and definitely no less important. This is a journey which we are all on as unique individuals which is why I love this site - a big melting pot of people who have their own battles and goals and reasons to be here so if you are feeling down and you end up on a persons blog who sounds ultra positive - instead of taking that as a personal affront or a reason to feel bad about yourself - try seeing it from their perspective - maybe they are just trying to get by just like you. Instead of avoiding thier page try giving them some encouragement or praise. It really does help you feel better too!!

So that's what has been on my heart and mind.

Right off to fulfill some goals and get proud of myself and my achievements.
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    Love this!
    3560 days ago
    Good observations, so good to be so aware. Nice way to work toward goals and stay positive. Thanks
    3561 days ago
    Don't give up on yourself. You are the

    only one that can make it happen for

    you. You have the power to succeed or


    You have choosen to succeed.

    Janet emoticon
    3562 days ago
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    I try to work out my struggle before presenting it in a blog. If I can't than I just don't blog until I come up with a resolution. I have read a few of those blogs that accuse site members of being "ultra-positive" and that life is "sunshine and rainbows" (I myself have been accused ).

    No, life is not always pretty, I should know. But it's what one does with it to make it right and beautiful again is what this journey is about. Great blog, Ana!

    3562 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/16/2011 8:06:50 PM
    Im pretty much a positive person. Cant help it, its just how I am.

    NOW: spark blogs are to write about what we FEEL. If someone doesnt like what they read, dont comment and just move on! GEEZ. Whether it is positive or negative is NOT YOUR BUSINESSS! It is what someone felt or wanted to write. Try not to judge it and just read someone else's.

    I like your perspective, ANAJAK. Good angle on it. Well done.

    3562 days ago
    Loved it! :D
    It's good to vent, It's equally good to try hard to stay positive!
    Thanks for your blog :)
    3562 days ago
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