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The rut is still missing..........

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

So, my life continues with much consternation and upheaval. The daughter and family just left today after arriving on Friday. She was in DC all weekend (even spent a night away from kids!) at photography workshop. Son in law and I tag teamed with the kids. Needless to say I am once again POOPED!!! My 20 month old grandson is VERY attached to his mom so it was tough! But, I'm so glad she had the opportunity to do this (even though we all agreed it was the worst timing ever!). They did put offer on house this morning so we are keeping our fingers crossed.
My dad fell last Thursday and fractured his right femur. Surgery Sunday afternoon (5 hours!). He is very disoriented and has been in a lot of pain. There are questions re: Medicare paying for therapy (they just did for broken hip--some confusion). So, I've also been dealing with many phone calls from my brother and discussing options, issues with hubby as my sounding board.
Needless to say, I am not exercising. Eating is OK but not great, for sure.
Daughter and family return Thursday for weekend.
I'm not getting anything done around the house (barely keeping clean underwear in drawers--soon we'll just turn them inside out!) Had to cancel a dr. appointment today as daughter and hubby were writing offer with realtor and I had kids. I worry about my dad constantly. How much c**p does an 86 year old have to deal with???? Broken bones? Blindness? Nursing home?? End of life is not fair. My heart aches for this wonderful man who is ready to continue his journey but seems to be stuck with a broken body but great vital signs!!!
Will I ever exercise again? Will I ever clean my house? Will I have clean underwear at some point? At this point I'm not sure of the answer to any of these questions.
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  • JANEDOE12345
    Beth, you have your hands full indeed. It may help to remember that our Higher Power never gives us more than we can handle (or sovI have been told), although it sometimes feels like we are at the absolute limit. My heart goes out to you and your father, especially. The system out there for caring for old people is not very good - he needs you as his advocate and you have the strength to get the job done.
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    Keep your chin up!
    Pam
    3271 days ago
  • NORASPAT
    I wrote a long response but decided it should be in a GOODIE instead. Thank you for being such a good suppoerter on my family Pat in Maine, emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3271 days ago
  • MORTICIAADDAMS
    What a nightmare, GF! Sheesh!

    At least your daughter found a house and hopefully it will go through.

    So sorry to hear about your dad. I went through the fractured hip thing with mine. I hope everything works out. My dad was one of the fortunate ones who recovered and he is very careful now.

    Nothing is done here too. I fret a lot and think about everything I need to do and nothing gets done. Pffffffttttt!

    Of course I know you are kidding about the clean underwear. If not I would be headed to your house to do laundry for you. LOL. I could eat sitting next to a maggot covered dead carcass but I would be wearing clean underwear. LOL.

    It has to get better..........for both of us!!
    3275 days ago
  • PINKNFITCARLA
    Aw, Beth :-( Lots on your plate! Hang in there. My Mom is going through the same thing with my 86 year old Nanny. She fell one month ago and broke her pelvis and is in a rehab center. Getting old is not fun and it's so sad to see those we love hurting so much. emoticon
    3275 days ago
  • SUZYMOBILE
    I was just gonna say it, too--This too shall pass. Instead, I'll say, "Sometimes you have to go through hell to get to heaven." I'm so sorry about your dad, whom you love so much. I think I love him, too! The poor man.

    Never a dull moment in your life, my friend. At least you aren't drowning your stress in little glasses of red wine, like I am lately.
    3276 days ago
  • SNUGLBUNIE
    Beth, the answer is yes, you will have all those. At this point in time though, your life is extremely busy. Remember that you are never given too much that you can't handle. Hope your dad gets better soon. I understand your pain/frustration as my mother was the same at 90 and then finally she was ready to let go and left me. I was happy though that she didn't have to go through anymore pain.

    Courage my friend and this too shall pass.
    3276 days ago
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