Hanging Tough and Giving UP- knowing what to do when
Thursday, December 01, 2011
Here's a message I placed on the message board for the Rheumatoid Arthritis Team...I thought it could maybe help others of you who struggle with poor health -- or other things beyond your control:
I was just reading a Spark Article by Dean Anderson that really struck some chords with me. He was talking about making the switch from a diet to a lifestyle (which is something all Spark People have heard about over and over) --but he had some really relevant wisdom in that article: relevant to US ...here is a paragraph from that article:
"The key to both permanent weight loss and feeling satisfied and happy with yourself and your life is to take personal responsibility for what you can control, and let go of everything else.
"Many factors that are out of your control—your genes, age, medical status and previous weight history— will affect your weight and appearance. These factors may determine how much weight you can lose, how quickly you’ll lose it, and how you’ll look and feel when you’ve gone as far as you can go. When you focus too narrowly on the numbers on the scale or what you see in the mirror, you are staking your happiness and satisfaction on things you really can’t control. That pretty much guarantees that you’ll be chronically worried, stressed, and uncomfortable—and more likely than ever to have problems with emotional eating."
It just really struck me--because I THOUGHT a year ago, that I'd made the lifestyle change...but I see from these words that I really hadn't. I had just gripped tighter the things I could control--but hadn't really dealt with the things I COULDN'T control. Then when my last two hip replacements occurred and my health in general started to slip from my grip--and I couldn't control it; I despaired...and I gave up my grip also on the things I COULD control and then lost the whole deal.
I just wanted to share that with you guys here; because there ARE a lot of things about our lives and health that we CAN"T control...and we need to come to the point where we give them up--and stop banging our heads against the wall trying to control them. The really important thing is to have that discernment to determine what can and what can't be controlled by us ; and then to take responsibility for changing the things under our control...and agreeing just to let go of what we can't.