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Decluttering in 2012

Sunday, January 01, 2012

Joining the team "Fit & Organized" got me thinking: I had already begun decluttering my home of all the "too-sentimental-to-throw-out" and "you-never-know-I-may-use-it-o
ne-day" stuff. But there are other areas in my life that I need to declutter, such as:

My thinking

I have a mind of my own. I do not have to go along with what others are doing, just to be sociable. Today after church my daughter-in-law suggested brunch at a restaurant. I said, "No, I'm not hungry; I had fruit this morning"-- but no one else had, so we went to a restaurant. Over everyone's protestations, I ordered only coffee, and I offered to feed the 2-year old so her parents and my daughter could enjoy their meals.

I just commented on another SP Friend's blog today, who was saying she felt overwhelmed by feeling she needed to respond to everyone who encouraged her on SP--I told her that I was sure no one was watching to be sure everyone responded to their comments. They had too many other priorities to feel slighted by something so trivial. But I have spent a lot of time responding to "thank people" as well-- probably unnecessarily, too. I'm going to declutter that thinking-- for me that time will be put to better use giving some comments that might actually help inspire Sparkers to stay with their plan or congratulate them on a goal reached. I know I have been much encouraged by many in those ways. In a few days I will be back to work; my time will be limited. I will use it wisely, with no guilt.

More decluttered thoughts involving "shoulds":

I do not HAVE TO "invite" someone who has invited me (to dinner, to a party, etc).
I do not HAVE TO join, let alone take the helm, of committees or organizations that I no longer want to participate in.
I do not HAVE TO do ANYTHING that I even suspect is not in my best interest.

I will ask myself. "Do I really want to do this?" or "Will I really benefit from this?"

This does not make me selfish; it frees me to take care of the things that are really important to me. One of the things I really do want to make time for is to volunteer in a soup kitchen this year.

I can do this!

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    Yes! I made a decision to not stress over getting back to everyone with a thank you. I do go & visit my friends blogs to contribute!
    Thanks for the reminder.
    My de- cluttering begins in about a week when we get back from holidays to pack up our home and move!

    3074 days ago
    Great ideas! I am terrible at both. I hope to work on both this year. I have a reputation at work because I never say no. I really need to follow your advice!
    3074 days ago
  • MAYTE1975
    Great thinking , all this is so much more than lossing weight , is showing yourself that you can change things , you can make things happen .
    Congrats my friend , sorry I´m a little late but I´m back on track after two mad weeks emoticon
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    3074 days ago
    Great thinking, and I've felt that way for a long time too, although like everyone I occasionally get stuck in obligations I probably should have found a way to avoid.

    Your refusing "social eating" at the restaurant after church is a phenomenally good example for everyone trying to stay in control.

    Its never selfish to take care of yourself first. Anyone who wishes to help others must be physically and financially in good shape themselves, or their service to others will have a very short lifespan.
    3074 days ago
    Great encouragement to me today...I have been simplifying my home and trying to be more organized. Your blog comes just on the day I am taking down Christmas decorations and thinking about how to simplify my life even more...great ideas!! Way to go!!! Smiles Barb
    3075 days ago
    I told you that your ACTIONS speak louder than words!!! Great thing you are doing!!! emoticon
    3075 days ago
    Kudos to you for knowing where and when to say no, so you can say yes to what you want to do. I hope you find time to volunteer in the soup kitchen. One of the most rewarding things I do (I'm underemployed so I have more time than most) is make 5 gallons of soup once a month. It is a lot of work but so satisfying.
    3075 days ago
    I feel that I have had good success in my basement the last few weeks. I may be ready to attack a nasty room upstairs and just start shedding worthless possessions.
    3076 days ago
    Its a wonderful process - I wish we could go out to lunch and talk it over!! Once you begin, you start seeing all the additional uncluttering you can do...its like a snowball rolling downhill. Re-claim your time and start visualizing what you DO want to spend time/energy on... Make sure you have fun with all of this! Oh, and please keep the 'Vette...!!!
    3076 days ago
    You are learning that "no" is a powerful word. And I agree - you don't have to thank people for posting. I confess that I never do thank yous like that. I always figure people know I appreciate it by the (other, non-thank you) things I post on theirs. I have a Spark Friend who used to blog every day and every day when I'd comment she'd come to my page and leave a thank you. I wanted to tell her, "please don't bother doing that," but didn't want to hurt her feelings. She finally got comfortable enough that she doesn't do it any more.
    3076 days ago
    Muy Bueno! De-Cluttering & Saying "No!"
    You have your own:"Who Wants a Clean House..." & "Oprah" Episodes! :-)

    Oprah was always saying we need to learn the "Power of NO" especially as "nice people pleasers" She said once she got "older & learned her time was just as valuable as other peoples, she put "herself 1st".

    Oprah didn't like that people/friends didn't like her for declining/ "saying no" but after a while..meh...she got over it. LOL she knew her intentions were pure & she would only say "YES!" to the things she really had & made time for!

    I am learning...when you know better, you do better!

    Waaay to go JazzeJR-Momita! emoticon
    3076 days ago
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    I have decluttering as part of my goals for the year also.
    You're right that you have to say No to certain things to reach your goals and to make time for things that are important. emoticon
    3076 days ago
    AWESOME post. Thanks for sharing. I've committed to the DE-cluttering of my house and I love your additions to the other areas of life! Have a happy, healthy, and BLESSED New Year!
    Take care and God Bless. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3076 days ago
    Great ideas. I am too much of a people pleaser: very hard to say no. But it does give me something to think about. Thanks
    3076 days ago
  • YIWEN39
    I LOVE THIS :-) emoticon to you Jaz, this is GREAT!!!
    Action! Go! emoticon emoticon
    I see you're already off to a GREAT start! emoticon emoticon
    3076 days ago
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