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Sunday, June 10, 2012

Without trying to be a total Debbie Downer (no offense to any Debbies out there)...Aren't the BINGO weekend challenges a little much...I can totally see it being feasible to complete a BINGO over the weekend, but every day? I know that the idea is participation and not perfection, but... Can't wait to see how many people gave themselves a manicure and/or pedicure all 4 days!!

I understand that it could be fun, and perhaps the idea is to provide a whole bunch of things so that everyone can participate at least a square each day, but it just seems a little overwhelming, and honestly, I've gotten to where I see BINGO and I say to myself...maybe next weekend. For perfectionists, it is really a downer. I know that I should let go of the perfectionism that I have, especially when the main thought going through my head most of the time is that "if I can't do it right, why even bother." That is just one of many of the recordings playing in my head over and over, which is probably why I put back on the 40 lbs that I lost last year (among other reasons).

I almost posted this in the tracker for my group, but figured it would indeed be a downer, and that is NEVER my intention, EVER to derail someone else, so I am getting it off of my chest, here.
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    I think the biggest lesson I have learned in my 18 months of getting nearer and nearer to my goal weight and shedding over 130lbs is that I have to accept that I can only do what I can do. I am not perfect and I am not meant to be perfect. I can only do my best and make the best choices on any given day.

    I have found that by trying to be a perfectionist it was really just my way of continuing to make excuses. If I can't be perfect why try. That is just a lame excuses. I didn't go to the gym so I can eat fries. Yep being a perfectionist for me was a big old out for when I just didn't want to.

    I now take eat challenge and look at it and schedule what i can do and what I can't do. I did get blackouts this weekend but that's because I schedule it and when I couldn't Saturday, well I let it go and did the best I could.

    I would rather make a good choice and have a plan that to try and be perfect and have the perfect excuse as to why i didn't do it.
    3142 days ago
  • TEKRU1
    I understand what you're saying and felt that way the first time I saw one of the BINGO challenges - NO WAY am I going to be able to do all of this! I decided to do what I can and use the challenges to make myself step outside of my comfort zone. Do what you can do and try not to stress over what you can't!
    3142 days ago
    I do find the bingo challenges a little over the top too. I never get high scores. I like the idea of using it as a check list - perhaps they could go for the checklist idea instead..

    Don't get too frustrated... You are a wonderful bombshell !
    3142 days ago
    Hiya Sandy! First of all I wanna give you a emoticon okay now on to my reply.
    I too want to be the best of the best and give my all and achieve full points on anything I do in life. The BINGO challenge is def. a challenge for sure. And for those of us who are either ALL IN or ALL OUT it's hard. And for the mani pedi stuff - I did do 3 mani's LOL I am addicted to my cuticle cutters and buffing! emoticon Okay, so how in the world do people like us get thought challenge's like this?? The only way I get through them is yeah well just doing the best I can. I know if I don't get full points my team won't be disapppinted BUT I do know if I DON'T get any points they will be. So I use it more of a check list to keep my on track during the weekends. I use it a "tool" to get me through the hard moments and when I want to give up and throw in the towel because I am no where near a blackout - I take a deep breath and just remeber any step towards the right direction is better than no step at all!

    Please don't ever feel like you are letting anyone else down, you need to worry about youself and make sure you don't let yourself down. That is what mattes most. You have a family and sweet little kiddos who need you at your best. And anytime you feel like you need to get things off your chest you know you can post anything at anytime! This is where we all come for support through the good, bad and ugly. So please please please post away at anytime - don't feel like you are a "debbie downer" you are just Human emoticon

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    3142 days ago
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    If you know me, I speak from the heart, and am not always good with words. So after reading your blog, I'm going to just lay it out there ... what I'm thinking.

    First, I'm a perfectionist, an overachiever. As team captain of the Bombshells, I think I should lead by example and get blackouts on everything, the highest amount of points. Lead by example, right?! Well, if it makes you feel any better. I have NOT been able to get blackouts on BINGO this round. It's not for lack of trying.

    I think the point of the weekend challenges are to pull us out of our comfort zone and get us to try new things. It's to help us focus on healthy eating, exercise, and making sure we have some time for us ... most of us our so busy taking care of others that we don't always take some time out for ourselves.

    Don't worry about being perfect. Just choose the things that you can do. Instead of focusing on what you can't do, didn't do ... focus on what you can do, what you did do. Are you participating? Did you claim a box of the BINGO? When you play regular BINGO, you win when you get 5 in a row (across, down, or diagonal). Did you win?!

    "Why even bother"? Because you deserve the benefits that you will reap from eating healthy, exercising, expanding out of your comfort zone (learning something new), and sharing your experiences (both good and bad) with others. You have goals to meet. You have reasons for wanting to reach those goals (one of them is probably for your family). As you make healthy choices, you are inspiring others that know you to make their own healthy choices.

    The Bombshells are here for you, whenever you might need them. We can take the good, the bad, and the ugly and help you through each day. Why?! Because we LOVE you!!
    3142 days ago
    If it makes you feel any better... I was one of the creators of this particular BINGO challenge and I scored a whopping 140 out of a possible 900. NOT my best showing, by far. But I was encouraged by the idea that even with an overwhelmingly busy weekend, I still had an opportunity to make time for myself and make it count. But I think the whole "perfectionist" attitude is part of what holds some of us back, MYSELF included. I, for too long, have allowed myself to throw away an entire day over one meal. Or an entire week over a bad day. Or... or... or.... it goes on and on. It's this ALL or NOTHING attitude that needs to be tweaked. I'm working on it, and I encourage YOU to allow yourself some slack before throwing in the towel on a challenge, a day, a week, a month, etc. We're in this together... we're all works in progress, that's why we're here in the first place. (((HUGS)))
    3142 days ago
    I agree that the BINGO is overwhelming! This is my first BLC round, and whew... so much going on! I find I can generally do something...though yes, the perfectionist in me isn't too happy! I honestly didn't bother with some of the squares...too much trouble to find a tennis ball around my house! :) I hope you can find your drive again. You are worth it!

    3143 days ago
    I am a perfectionist too and I can understand where you are coming from with maybe trying to blackout over the entire weekend. I agree I think the point is to try and put as much out there so that there is a block that everyone can do. Dont be so hard on yourself if you dont max out, or black it out. The point is my friend to just be conscious of the things you eat and the exercise you are doing. Do you agree with me that a little bit of movement is better then nothing? That is the thing Sandy and I can already start to see you doing it again,walking with friends. Even though you say it wasnt a long walk it was a walk and it helps.

    When you have these feelings no matter if it is down or up please post them on our thread, we are your support, your family and we want to do everything we can to help you get through this. No matter what that scale says, you are amazing, and wonderful!!! It doesnt define who you are and I agree with MT put the Debbie down and just be Sandy aka Mama Da Bomb.
    3143 days ago
  • APED7969
    I know what you mean in regards to the bingo challenges. I make it a goal to black it out once and just live with that. I didn't even come close this weekend since I was away so you're definitely not the only one feeling that way. I did tick of the mani/pedi box 3/4 days since I ran a HM last weekend and i'm trying to make my poor toes look less gross!!
    3145 days ago
    I understand...it would be cool if there was something for completing it over the four days...but I find I like being able to do little bits here and there to get points. I'm a perfectionist too, but somehow it leads to procrastination and giving up...not to getting a perfect score. But, I was originally thinking of trying to max out yesterday...then I took a nap, lol. (rolling eyes at myself)

    Anyway, I hope you're able to put that "Debbie" down for a while and just be Sandy--cuz that's the best. I do think it'd be cool to meet up, and I think it'd be fun for you to join BRAG...there's still time, and I'm sure you can at least keep me company if not "beat" me back, lol.

    Anyway, Tink challenged me with a goodie to Hulu hoop today. Ya wanna join in? I'm thinking it can be a pretend hoop too.

    3145 days ago
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