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Tuesday, August 07, 2012

I've been on again, off again at Spark People since around 2005, and I'm still the same weight. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't frustrated. I eat better and exercise for a while, and then I fall off the wagon. I look at pictures of other people's success stories, and while I'm sure that I can do it... I can't help but wonder why I haven't done it yet. Why can all of these other people lose weight consistently, while I'm consistently maintaining. I want to be fit and healthy. I'm tired of being fat and tired. Clearly I cannot do this on my own. How do I make it happen?!
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  • no profile photo CD9898685
    You are not alone. There are great suggestions here. Please let me know if I can help you in anyway. One step at a time. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3168 days ago
    I understand your frustration!! I have been on sparkpeople since 2006, but absent the last 2 years. I've lost and gained, lost and gained! Recently, my niece lost 46lbs with turbofire...I have always been a fan of turbo jam! So I ordered turbofire and just started on Monday, I have commited myself to do the 90 day challenge! Small goals really help me! Most importantly, never give up! You are worth it! emoticon
    3171 days ago
    hi becky sorry to hear you are on a downer.in the last year i have only lost 2lbs so i know what a downer that can be.dragonchilde said it so good.are you still in diet mode?i sometimes thing i am even after over 3 years with spark.i like you see all the people who reach goal or loosex amount of weight in x time and wonder why not me.but wondering gets us nowhere very quick just doing does that,lol.another thing i have learnt it is i who has to do it no one else.i am the one who has to take it one choice,one step,one bite at the time.no one can do it for me.i just have to own my choices good or bad.to know when one choice was not so good for this healthy lifestyle and know that the next choice can be a good choice makes all the differance.what i try to do is have more choices good and less choices bad.we are all differant,we have differant metabolism,differant challenges in our life etc,etc.just know becky love it is not so much the challenges we face that are important but wather how we deal with them.know you have the power with in you to do what you want,you have the determination to be consistant,to say yes or no.it is all in your power one choice at a time.no regrets once you made the choice weather good or bad put it behind you and move onto the next choice.what helps me when i don´t seem to be going forward is to concentrate on the NSV ,the small things and also to start looking at all the blessing we i have in my life.like a home,running water,electricity,a computer to spark,family ,friends etc.when i do that it makes the rest easier even this healthy lifestyle.know you can do this.you have the power now go and do it emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon
    3173 days ago
    the changes that you make have to be ones you can live with. It's not a diet, it's a new lifestyle.

    keep this in mind (from John Wooden): “When you improve a little each day, eventually big things occur…. Not tomorrow, not the next day, but eventually a big gain is made. Don’t look for the big, quick improvement. Seek the small improvement one day at a time. That’s the only way it happens — and when it happens, it lasts.”
    3173 days ago
    i hit a plateau for about 2 years but was happy because i maintained. I have gained about-10 lbs in the last 12 months and i am not able to drop it. i know why, i guess i am trying to over rationalize it and use "funny calorie" math to try to fool myself.
    3173 days ago
    Wow, man...get outta my head! emoticon But, seriously...I know what you're going thru. It's been since 3/09 for me & I still struggle, still lose...and still gain.
    It's just been until recently that I asked myself the same questions & actually tried to think about them & answer them. It was then that I discovered a couple of Achilles heels where my weight-loss efforts were concerned, one of them being that I was consistently...inconsistent.
    If you, " ..eat better and exercise for a while, and then I fall off the wagon." there's a red flag right there. Sounds lame but, "When you work the program, the program works."
    emoticon It's just a matter of doing it consistently...not perfectly, but consistently.
    Anyway, hope that helps. Let me know if you'd like an accountability partner or anything. emoticon
    P.S. Other great advice too! emoticon
    3173 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/7/2012 8:40:21 PM
  • SANDYW1945
    All good advise. One more thing. This has got to be about what works for you. Don't give up.
    3173 days ago
    I agree with DRAGONCHILDE, you need to track everything. Measure and weigh your food. Get and keep in touch with friends, and teams. You can do this, and we are here to help.
    3173 days ago
    Start small. I'm going to guess that, based on past blog entries, you're still in the diet mentality. Shakes and shortcuts don't work! As I'm sure you've figured out, quick fixes don't fix the underlying issues.

    Start off by tracking everything. For seven days, track, track, track. Don't worry about perfection, just learn what you're eating. From there, you can start making small changes.

    You know how I'm doing this? Tiny baby steps. I started cutting portions, making healthy substitutions, but otherwise, I still eat pretty much the same things I always have. Just less of them. :)

    GET INVOLVED. Get into the community here. Post in the message boards. Join sparkteams. Talk! I made a goal of blogging EVERY DAY, whether someone was reading or not. Blogging daily keeps me accountable, keeps Spark in my head. Makes me think about the things in my day in a way that I can talk about them.

    I blog on my bad days. I blog on my good days. I miss now and again, because there's no room for perfection, but I try hard. And it's helping. Heck, it's apparently gotten me voted a motivator (don't ask me how, I have NO idea).

    Start small. Baby steps! Make small, sustainable changes, and eventually, they'll add up to a big deal!
    3173 days ago
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