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Stressed and 2lb gained!

Tuesday, March 05, 2013

Drat, I tried my best but my emotions got the better of me! I am so mad at myself that I gave in but the stress at work is eating me alive!! So, I didn't work all last week thanks to my manager. So I emailed him for a update to see if I would be able to take my breaks. He tells me that he met with Lauren, the union rep, and they both agreed that there shouldn't be any breaks. So I talked with my friend who is a union secretary/treasurer and he said that I would have to go through the union first and then to state. So since the union wasn't on my side, I called the state. They said that I would have to go through the union. I'm stuck stuck stuck!

All of this stress has forced me into eating more then I should, by a lot. Some days I eat 2000+, other its 3000+. Its only been for a few weeks and I've been able to hang on this long but 2 lbs! Eck! I am mad at myself for it because I feel like my manager is trying to get me out. I quit smoking for 2 days but then he added in more issues and I couldn't stop. Normally when we have a holiday, he puts out a sign in list. This time, he just let the cal land as is and that meant I would be working. I sent him a email saying he normally puts a list out and I can't work it. He emails me back and says "oh, so you can work it, and you want to work it." In the end, I have it off and I'm getting holiday pay but it seems like he's trying everything to make me snap. The issue is, I'm taking it all out on myself! I'm 2 lbs more and I'm smoking! It really gets to me because I'm getting my wedding dress fitted on Sunday and I've worked so hard to lose the weight.

I'm starting back on track today, I didn't track for the last few days because I was doing so many wrong things to myself. I have fitbit and I haven't walked or done anything more than 2000 steps a day. I have to stop taking my emotions out on my body.

I feel trapped, and when I feel trapped and stressed, I don't want to workout, I don't want to eat right and I give in to those urges! Someone, if you could give me some pearls of wisdom or a kind word, it would be greatly appreciated.
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    I agree you should talk directly to the union rep. The union should be looking out for you, otherwise it has no excuse for existence. Why would you assume your boss is honest?

    What kind of work are you doing?
    2789 days ago
    If you work in Minnesota, you should be getting breaks to use the restroom and eat. Specifically: "MN law requires employers to provide restroom time and sufficient time to eat a meal. If the break is less than 20 minutes in duration, it must be counted as hours worked. Time to use the nearest restroom must be provided within each four consecutive hours of work. Meal time applies to employees who work eight or more consecutive hours."

    Now in the actual statutes it does say something about not prohibiting employers and employees from establishing rest breaks different from those provided in this section pursuant to a collective bargaining agreement. So, I guess there could be different arrangements made via the union, which might be why the state told you to contact them. But, I can't imagine a union eliminating all breaks. Check out this page if you haven't already:

    >And, if you do need to go through your union, I would contact your rep directly and not go by what your boss is telling you they are saying. Good luck and if it is driving you that crazy, don't rule out looking for a different job.
    2790 days ago
  • 1EMMA2011
    This is awful and I feel so sad for you that you have to go through this. I know this sounds drastic - however I'd consider writing my Senator I think - write them and ask for help.. Either that or consult an attorney!

    Wishing you all the best!


    2790 days ago
    My husband's work doesn't have paid or unpaid breaks so I know something about this. Employers don't have to provide you with a PAID break but you can insist on having an unpaid one for every 4 hours you work and then have your day extended by that period if it's allowed. If they allow you to have an unpaid or paid lunch period after 4 hours that would technically qualify as a break. Of course if the day can't be extended due to this being their work hours then I doubt they would be obligated so you would just make less money as you would be working less hours. Do you not even have a lunch hour or half hour? Working 8-10 straight hours with no time off would be gruesome.
    2790 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/5/2013 12:26:43 PM
    When I first started this job I was very motivated to do well. I was a temp and really wanted to be hired full-time/permanent. So. I put up with less than optimal pay and rather overwhelming duties just to get my foot in the door.

    Six years later my managers still have unrealistic ideas of just how much I can get done in a day. However, now when they try to push additional work on me I now push back, and you know what? They're OK with that. It's not insubordination to tell the truth.

    Several years ago I took a little post it note and wrote down a number. Every time I start to feel my stress increase I look at that number and ask myself - "Is this crap worth that number?" Sometimes it is, and sometimes it isn't.

    Take your salary and divide it down until you have a figure for how much money you make per minute. My latest post it note says .34. Right now I've been typing for about 4 minutes, so I owe the company $1.36 worth of work. The next ugly email I clear up will more than eat up that little sum.

    If you consistently see that it's not worth that little number, it's time to leave.
    2790 days ago
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