Another tough message from Steve Siebold (and keep in mind: I'm just paraphrasing, his delivery is priceless!!):
"Weight loss isn't easy and success requires suffering. We have to expect to experience pain, doubt and emotional turbulence. There's lots of pressure (internal, external: frequent, at least every couple of hours) to "go off your diet just this once".
[It's mostly friends and relatives and work colleagues who derail diets. My very own DH, as I started listening to Day Four this morning, grumbled softly, "I don't know why you're listening to this AGAIN!! You don't need it." Flattering, and it's true I'm not fat. Now. But it takes continuous effort. And that's why I DO need to listen again. I need the reinforcement. The battle's never won.}
Returning to Steve: "Fit people know everything has a price. But being fat has a price too. And success feels fantastic, not just for weight loss but for the effect weight loss has on every area of your life.
Right now 60% of people are overweight. Johns Hopkins University researchers say by 2020 that figure will balloon to 75%. And by 2032, 90% in North America will be overweight or obese." When Siebold goes to buffet restaurants in Florida and in North Georgia, he says it's already the case that 90% of the people there are hugely obese.
The most persistent and hard hitting message in Day Four:
"If you permit yourself to be a fat person who can't control yourself, that's the message you're delivering to your kids. They're more likely to become obese as well. And obesity leads to many types of disease: cancer, diabetes . . . yeah. We're killing ourselves with a knife and fork.
No way we should jump on the "fat acceptance" bandwagon or adopt the excuse that I'm just a "person of size": nobody is born fat. We don't endorse "bankruptcy acceptance".
Most of us are "winners" in other areas of our lives: and we can be winners in weight loss too.
But not unless we grow up emotionally and take responsibility for our own weight and for the message of mental toughness we're delivering to our kids."
And then, to soften somewhat this huge burden of responsibility, Steve offers an endearing image of our future success. We're already on the journey, and he envisions a steam engine chugging down the track and pulling into the station -- complete with chugga-chugga noises! And whistle sounds. Journey to weight loss complete!! Too cute.
So: how do you motivate people to endure suffering? Because the fact is: weight loss involves suffering. And weight loss maintenance requires that the mental toughness become . . . permanent. Truly.
Is it hitting below the belt to tell us all we're "bad parents" if we don't manage our weight?
And even if we don't have kids, that we're poor role models for success more generally?
Hmmm. End justifying means? Size of rear ends justifying meanness??
Don't know. But I do know: weight loss and weight loss maintenance don't require the MOST mental toughness or extort the WORST suffering I've experienced in my life.
And the price I've paid and continue to pay is worth it. For me.