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Time to Change the Focus

Monday, February 03, 2014

Hey Sparkpeeps - I know its been awhile since I've blogged but there was a few things on my mind I wanted to share with you.

I believe in one of my blogs I shared how I had surpassed my goal weight of 155lb and then I was at a weight range of 139 - 143. I have sinced gained about 10lbs and am now between 148 - 152. When I initially gained the 10lbs I worked hard to get it back down only to gain it back and I went back and forward with these 10lbs for awhile. And the crazy part was I liked the way I look at 148 - 152 and I still have surpassed my goal weight of 155lb so why was I so obsessed about these 10lbs and it dawned on me its because that DARN BMI chart says that I am overweight if I am 148 - 152lbs.

This just reminds me how much pressure we put on ourselves when we try to fit what is considered the norm. I am so tired of hearing the media say that 4 out of 5 African American women are overweight and/or obese or that we as Americans have expanded our waistlines. Well how come they can't talk about the millions of Americans who are trying to improve their health. Instead they shows these size zero hollywood stars and models who sometimes have very unhealthy fitness and eating regiments and says that should be the norm. Even in fitness you see these fitness models with six packs and sculpted arms and legs and that's considered norm for fitness. Then we jump on the scale and it doesn't fit the norm of the BMI or look in the mirror and don't see the sculpted arms or legs yet and we think all our hard work isn't paying off and we get frustrated and lose our focus.

I know some that get frustrated and quite where in my case frustration makes me work harder but that is not always a good thing. I was putting myself in danger by overtraining and it took my visit home on New Years for my mother to tell me I was doing too much and I took a good look at my workout regiment and realized she was right - not only was I overtraining, it wasn't even fun because it just seemed I wasn't hitting any goals. So I had to rethink things.

That's when I determined 148 - 152lbs is a good weight range for me - granted with the extra 10lbs I had to give up some of my size 4s (I can still wear some of them) but being a size 6 is not a bad thing especially considering I was a size 14/16. I then realized I was so focused on losing weight that I forgot all the things I've gained in this journey. Things like my body fat percentage is down to 18%, or that I am able to do things now physically that I couldn't even dream of doing when I first started (things like burpees and push-ups on my toes), or the fact that my eating happens have changed so much for the better, I have more energy and the list goes on and on.

So I am off of that "gotta lose these last 10lb yo-yo" and decided to change the focus. Now for me its about improving my fitness and training like an athlete (but in a safe way), its about having a well balanced meal plan and helping those around me who are looking for ways to start or even improve their health and/or fitness goals. Just like I was sharing with my Sparkpeep JAZZID - we have to be a motivation to each other because we are all in this together.

I do weigh-in ever 2 weeks just to make sure I'm in range but no longer will I allow the scale dictate my mood or change my focus. So Sparkpeeps whatever your fitness goals remember health and fitness is not only about losing weight, BMI charts and looking like the norm - there is so many other benefits of being healthy and fit. And the thing is when you think your body is not changing or it seems you're stuck other people see what you don't see.

Our mantra at my church this year is 2014 YEAR OF IMPACT. So I am taking this mantra with me in this health and fitness journey - this is the YEAR OF IMPACT for us all.

Love Ya - Smoochez

Here's me at 148 - 152:

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Member Comments About This Blog Post
    This is awesome -- you look great! Congratulations on both the weight loss and finding your "happy weight."
    2315 days ago
    Great blog and everything you said is so true!!!
    2315 days ago
  • NEWMOM20121
    Love the pictures and the blog. You look super
    2352 days ago

    (yahoo im: belton_lynn)
    2370 days ago
    Wow I'm late but loved this blog. I haven't gotten to that point YET of letting what feels comfortable to me be my goal weight. I think you look great and I love your church mantra for the year. I want this year to be my year of impact as well. I'm so happy I ran across your blog today, really met me where I am on this journey.
    2383 days ago
    emoticon ... I have been trying to lose weight for awhile now. In my case, I was always small, around a size 7 or 8, weighed about 123 - 134. When I got cancer I gained weight to a 10, now a 14; now my weight hovers between 168-174!... this is too much weight for me, being 5'2" and small boned. All this weight is from fat, NOT muscle. Yes, according to the charts my BMI is "off the chart" and I am officially "obese"... however, like you, I am not letting that define me and my weight loss journey.

    I like what you said ... "That's when I determined 148 - 152lbs is a good weight range for me - granted with the extra 10lbs I had to give up some of my size 4s (I can still wear some of them) but being a size 6 is not a bad thing especially considering I was a size 14/16. ..."

    emoticon ... I will probably never get down to a size 6 or even an 8 (... although I would love to get to this size again)... however, the bottom line is, how I feel about whatever size I end up being, health-wise & how I look, will determine "what size/weight is best for me", NOT some BMI chart!

    I love your photos, you look fantastic! emoticon ... I want to get to the point where I can comfortably wear my shirt inside my pants. I am not putting much emphasis on scale weight, but more in inches lost because I seem to lose inches more efficiently than weight. It's slow going right now, all this yo-yoing has taken a toll, but I am not giving up and like the way that I am eating (... never had a problem working out, love it and have worked out all my life)... sweets have always been my Achilles Heel, but I am working on this and so far so good.

    Thanks for the shout out and support. You are more inspiring and motivating than you will ever know. I will be so glad when I too can say emoticon

    ~ Dee emoticon
    2400 days ago

    Comment edited on: 2/22/2014 7:31:54 PM
  • -RUBIES-
    I completely understand. I don't pay any attention to the BMI chart - at all. I just go with the weight that feels right and looks good on me.

    Actually, according to the BMI chart, I am borderline obese... WHATEVER! If you saw me and knew my health scores, you'd quickly say, "no way"!

    The BMI chart is set as such so that the health care industry can benefit from categorizing people as obese. It's all about greed... not neccesarily the people. It opens the door for them to generate revenue in a variety of ways.

    I really like my body size and am beyond thankful for SP for showing me the way and educating me so I that I know how to maintain. I track everything I eat and weigh-in once a week to keep things in check. I'm good and it sounds like you are too.

    I think you wear 148-152 well. Work it girl!
    2419 days ago
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