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Now that I'm Free.....

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

In an act of stubbornness and in an attempt to hurt my feelings my husband announced he would never again eat anything I cooked. My husband is likely dying of heart disease....He has been "living" (more like "dying" )on potato chips and cereal. That is his diet. I've invited him to join us for dinner and he has refused.
You know what? I can't make him take care of himself. If he wants to die, then die he will. And it will not be my fault but his own.

So I have to look at this proclamation of his as a statement of freedom for me. No longer do I have to try to please him by the foods I cook. I will cook for my daughter and me --both of us are trying to lose weight. So I will cook healthy, low calorie foods and when the weather warms up,maybe we can take walks--which depends on whether or not my hips behave themselves. I may need surgery there again. I have to go and see my ortho surgeon about that.

But for now I'm going to try - as much as possible,to abide by the "eat to Live" precepts. However I'm going to make it as simple as possible. Steamed, sauteed, or raw veggies in wraps. Salads and smoothies. Beans. Mushrooms. Onions, Fruits, greens and veggies. some whole grains.

Always in the past, my cooking has been complicated by my husband's finickiness. Now I am free of that. If he asks me for some of what I'm making I will give it to him....Otherwise...he's on his own.

For now,exercise is limited to ROM (range of motion) exercises to keep my arthritic joints moving. I hope soon that I will be able to use my recumbent bike....that depends on my hips--and on my lungs.
It may be that I will have to rely solely on healthy food and controlled portions of the "less healthy" stuff I eat. A big part of what I hope will be success, is just by keeping "junk" out of the house. If there is a half gallon of ice cream here...it will be gone in two days. Solution? DON'T BUY IT. If I go to Bible Study and she serves yummies, I will bring fruit and yogurt. Or I may have a taste of what she makes and be satisfied with that.

Anyway. Now I'm free. If I'm not hungry: I don't have to cook. And if I AM hungry--then I can make whatever I want and I don't have to worry about pleasing the unpleasable.
Here's to freedom!
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  • CLPURNELL
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  • OVERWORKEDJANET
    Keep your promise to yourself!
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  • no profile photo CD10895053
    Good luck to you with your new-found freedom! emoticon Take it and run! Well, not quite run but have fun and peace with your levity to cook away. Your daughter is a wonderful, awesome treasure for you to cook with and eat with. Enjoy it all! emoticon
    2397 days ago
  • BKWERM
    Damn! I had hoped that you had finally killed him off. emoticon Oh well, this is good news too.
    2397 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5645667
    What a blessing! .. Now you need no longer feel guilty or upset by hubby's constant carping .. Eat to Live my lovely friend .. Love Susie xx emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2397 days ago
  • _LINDA
    This is for the best. The heart scare obviously didn't last long on him. Even people who get a triple bypass go back to smoking, just weak willed. They want what they are addicted to..
    May you and your daughter enjoy your healthy meals and feel good putting excellent nutrition in your body to fuel your recovery. There are a ton of non meat protein sources out there to explore, same with fruits and veggies.
    Here is to discovering a new way of eating!
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    2397 days ago
  • SENIMMO
    Hugs and prayers, my friend. You deserve peace and health, I am very proud of you.
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  • JANISMKW
    Sounds like you are living the Serenity Prayer... "to accept the things (and people) I cannot change." Good for you.

    I don't know about "eat to Live" but my doc advised lots of protein (like 100 - 130 g/day) to avoid losing muscle mass. Edamame, tofu, quinoa, beans, nuts are good vegetarian sources. Also fat-free dairy and eggs/egg whites of course. If you eat some ice cream I assume you are not vegan.

    Ice cream is my downfall (well, chocolate too) so I stick to frozen yogurt and really do best with portion-controlled treats such as Yasso or other Frozen Greek Yogurt Bars, Skinny Cow or Weight Watchers. Dishing out a 1/2 cup serving? Please! I start with a cup. My favorite flavor-for-the-calories choice is WW Divine Triple Chocolate Ice Cream Bars... 110 calories and dipped in chocolate. I can have one of these bars and leave it at that. Yasso is probably nutritionally the best: 80 calories, 0 fat, 15 carbs, 6 protein and live active cultures.
    2397 days ago
  • ROCKPORT9
    I call that freedom! I am sure he gets all the food he needs. Take care of your energy and health and if your daughter joins in....fine. Take care of you! Hugs, Laurel emoticon
    2397 days ago
  • no profile photo EVIE4NOW
    My husband eats everything I cook and usually without complaint. But he still finds the urge to bring home junk food... candy .. sweet rolls for breakfast.. chips. I usually ignore whatever he and the son buy and go about my merry way. If asked to join them I decline. If pressured I tell them they are trying to kill me and it stops them in their tracks.
    2397 days ago
  • NANCYJO1000
    What a blessing in disguise-Freedom to cook and eat, without that negativity will definitely open up the doors and let you experiment with yummy foods. If you stick with the whole foods, and stay away from processed, you will definitely see positive results!! Good luck!
    2397 days ago
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