Now that I'm Free.....
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
In an act of stubbornness and in an attempt to hurt my feelings my husband announced he would never again eat anything I cooked. My husband is likely dying of heart disease....He has been "living" (more like "dying" )on potato chips and cereal. That is his diet. I've invited him to join us for dinner and he has refused.
You know what? I can't make him take care of himself. If he wants to die, then die he will. And it will not be my fault but his own.
So I have to look at this proclamation of his as a statement of freedom for me. No longer do I have to try to please him by the foods I cook. I will cook for my daughter and me --both of us are trying to lose weight. So I will cook healthy, low calorie foods and when the weather warms up,maybe we can take walks--which depends on whether or not my hips behave themselves. I may need surgery there again. I have to go and see my ortho surgeon about that.
But for now I'm going to try - as much as possible,to abide by the "eat to Live" precepts. However I'm going to make it as simple as possible. Steamed, sauteed, or raw veggies in wraps. Salads and smoothies. Beans. Mushrooms. Onions, Fruits, greens and veggies. some whole grains.
Always in the past, my cooking has been complicated by my husband's finickiness. Now I am free of that. If he asks me for some of what I'm making I will give it to him....Otherwise...he's on his own.
For now,exercise is limited to ROM (range of motion) exercises to keep my arthritic joints moving. I hope soon that I will be able to use my recumbent bike....that depends on my hips--and on my lungs.
It may be that I will have to rely solely on healthy food and controlled portions of the "less healthy" stuff I eat. A big part of what I hope will be success, is just by keeping "junk" out of the house. If there is a half gallon of ice cream here...it will be gone in two days. Solution? DON'T BUY IT. If I go to Bible Study and she serves yummies, I will bring fruit and yogurt. Or I may have a taste of what she makes and be satisfied with that.
Anyway. Now I'm free. If I'm not hungry: I don't have to cook. And if I AM hungry--then I can make whatever I want and I don't have to worry about pleasing the unpleasable.
Here's to freedom!