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Thank you, my friend FRESHBEGINNINGS, for your courage and insight

Monday, April 14, 2014

The following is NOT my blog. I, in no way, am responsible for the gifted artistry and well-scribed reminder that our VALUE is not tied to the shape of our being. This is a post from an amazing person here on SP (her tagname is FRESHBEGINNINGS) who has inspired, encouraged, and shaped my personal journey over the last several months.

Thank you, FRESHBEGINNINGS, for this incredible post. I could not help but to share it on my SP page.

I watched the video on this site about a heavy woman who dances to change people's negative attitude about the shape of their own bodies. She talked about how she stopped doing everything when she got heavy out of shame, but now she is fighting that belief system - determined to break down the walls of prejudice and to have people not feel ashamed and not hide themselves and to keep living and having fun.

I believe in that cause, God gives us our value and nobody should ever be able to take it away, but I know I had been hiding myself and had stopped doing things in public. That is why I wanted new exercises as part of this challenge.

Now, right now, before I lose the weight, I am standing up against that within my heart and mind. I don't want to let anyone other than God choose my value ever - not even myself, because out of fear of the opinions of people, even I saw myself as "less than" at times and I refuse to think that. This concept is more than an emoticon about weight loss. I CAN do it, but human dignity is that we have value whether we do it or not.

I did not lose value when I gained weight and I am not now gaining value when I am losing weight - I say that for every heavy person - we all have value. I wonder how free we would all be if we didn't care about other people watching us at this vulnerable size, but before that, we have to fight against the culture of prejudice that has taken root in our own hearts.

I am not sure whether this is the right forum to say it, but I sense that it might help other people and that if we don't deal with these types of inner wrong thoughts now, we will end up feeling good about ourselves when we lose weight and not ever just learn to love ourselves just the way we are and we need to.

Written by: FRESHBEGINNINGS at: 4/12/2014 (23:57)
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  • PEGGY11
    My first husband made me feel unworthy and that was why he had mistresses. I finally left him and now I have a wonderful man who said you are you no matter your size. If you want to lose weight for you that is fine, but don't feel you have to do it for me because I love you. We don't stay young and beautiful forever , only the love endures the years and even gets better.
    2348 days ago
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    Very well said. And perhaps if we truly learn to love ourselves, we will want to treat ourselves well by eating foods that make us healthier and moving our body because we love it and want it to be healthy and stay healthy. Self love is the beginning of wisdom.
    2349 days ago
    So well stated! The woman in the video was amazing - her confidence, beauty, and poise was awe-inspiring. Many of us fight these demons and we make ourselves less than who we are because of our weight.
    But it truth...our weight is not a manifestation of our value or self-worth and overcoming self-rejection is key. Accepting and loving the person you are, at any weight, provides a source of unbounded strength and resilience that will allow you to face any challenge with confidence and grace.

    FRESHBEGINNINGS, so beautifully stated and heartfelt. Thank you.

    2349 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/14/2014 10:40:02 PM
    Sweetie, you have my blessings to use it!

    I have to say that this particular battle to not feel less than and not feel worthless and not feel less lovable or less loved... is probably the biggest emotional trigger that caused me to gain weight in the first place and it is the biggest emotional trigger for each time I failed after having lost.

    I am fighting for the right thinking about the value of every human being's life - (INCLUDING MINE) - no matter what size or what they look like. People literally kill themselves out of this issue and it needs to change and we can be a part of that change.

    It has to start by us not rejecting ourselves.

    You are such a blessing to me and I am so grateful for all you do!
    2349 days ago

    Comment edited on: 4/14/2014 4:45:25 PM
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