Confessions of a Success Story:
Details you need to know
• I’ve lost 146 lbs (It took me about 2 years)
• I dropped from a size 22/24 to a 4/6 most days
• I’ve been featured as a Spark Success Story.
• I’ve been on Spark since January 17, 2011
Anyone reading this that knows me knows that I am a fan of Sparkpeople. Do I criticize it? Yes, but only in meaningful ways to try to make the site better. Now, that I have disclaimered (yes, my own made up word) and given you details… on with the blog.
Today, I was perusing Sparkpeople like I do more days than not and I went to the recipe section. I click on a pineapple raspberry coffee cake wondering how the heck that was made healthy. I’m like everyone else; I want my cake and eat it too. However, unlike my former self I know that eating such a decadent dessert can lead to bad bad things (like 20 lbs). I get extremely happy when I can find a good for you skinnied down recipe. That’s what I was hoping to find when I clicked the button. What I found was a cake with almost 600 calories. Onto the confessions…
I CAN’T SEE THAT
In January 2011, I asked my husband if we could not go to restaurants for a few months and if he minded going into sections of the grocery store that I deemed danger zones. I also made him hide all his food that was fattening from me. Fine, go ahead and tell me that’s not realistic. And my argument back to you is that no one who has self control gets to be 146 lbs over weight. January 17, 2011 was a day I decided to learn to live healthy. Just because you make that proclamation doesn’t mean you know what to do, that it will be easy or that you need to put yourself in situations that you won’t succeed in. People have to learn self control. We have to learn discipline. We also have to figure out what triggers us to over eat and we have to figure out if food is worth it or not.
We didn’t go out to eat for the first 3 months of my healthy lifestyle. That time gave me a safety net to build my confidence, learn to make good choices, and to have self control. I eventually got there but it didn’t happen just by making the choice to live healthy and it didn’t happen without knowing in some aspects of life you have to ask for help.
I DIDN’T EAT THAT
People seriously hate to hear this but for the 2 years that I was actively getting to my goal weight, I did not have a single slice of pizza, French fries, fast food, cookies, cakes, doughnuts or candy. I knew that any of those things could derail me and weren’t really necessary in order to live healthy. Guess what? I didn’t miss those things at all. Why? I didn’t miss those things because I was creative and made healthy versions of most things. IF I wanted pizza, I would make eggplant pizza. If I wanted ice cream I made frozen bananas or frozen watermelon. If you don’t believe me, well one of my desserts is kind of famous; it was in First Magazine for Women.
You don’t have to have cake to be happy, I promise you. Actually the first cake I had was on my daughters 3rd birthday and it made me have cravings. I had been normal weight for over 6 months and cake made me crave. There’s your sign.
Life is always going to throw you lemons. You have to learn to make lemonaid (hahaha it’s a play on the spelling). I learned to have resources and to ask for help and part of my help was Sparkpeople and I assure you when I first started the recipe I found today would have made me delete my account. I am not advocating for anyone to not have an indulgence if you are able to, but you can find indulgences everywhere. However, Spark is my health zone… So unless it’s a healthy indulgence, I really wish we could get rid of the 600 calorie cakes. Yes, this site is for everyone, not just those losing weight, however, it’s still a site based on health and if I ate that cake, I’d probably have to start actively trying to lose weight. This journey is so hard ( so make it easy when you can), but it’s so worth it….
I promise you all that I have never said I regret not eating the cake.