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Such a ROUGH day for me and my kiddo!

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

So I had an extremely difficult morning with one of my daughters. I have been working out of town A LOT (5 weeks was my last stint) and I think that every one of my daughters are dealing with it in a different manner. One of them, has gained a substantial amount of weight. This both terrifies me and makes me feel guilty! I am SO afraid that she is heading down the path that I have. I feel guilty because I haven't been home to help her. WHAT am I going to do?? She didn't fit in to any of her clothes, and had a break down about being fat. I have done the same things 100 million times. Ugh. She is so young, and deserves to be happy with herself, not worrying about what she looks like. I remember my dad talking to me when I was young, and I thought he thought I was fat. I think she is thinking I think the same thing. Any advice on how to help her without hurting her??? Please keep me in your prayers both on the job front and with my little family.
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    I went through similar things with my daughter, She hit 6 foot at age 14 with a size 11 shoe and was heartbroken that nothing fit and that she simply could not shop at the teeny-bopper type stores her tiny 5 foot BFF favored. She was also heavy so nothing fit right and she just felt terrible. I can remember going through the same thing at her age, as we are of very similar build.

    What I did for my daughter was reassure her that she is growing up and her body is still changing and would keep on changing for quite some time and that the important thing is to eat healthy! No dieting, no restrictions, but THINK before you eat a whole bowl of candy or a giant dessert. There is no harm in letting them know that keeping an eye on what you eat and exercising are important at ALL ages, kids included. If she can focus on healthy eating, then her height is likely to catch up with her weight right quickly. Make sure whoever is taking care of her while you are gone is stocking lots of healthy choices and minimal (or even better NO) junk. Explain to her about good nutrition and how to figure out if a food is a good choice or not.

    I also took my daughter shopping and bought her as many nice things that fit her well and made her feel good as we could afford. I didn't fuss or make a big deal about it. Clothes are just clothes, sizes are just numbers, and these things don't hold power over us unless we let them.

    It's really a tricky subject, I know. Just make sure she knows that you are on her side and that you are here to help her and give her support, no matter what! Good luck, she is lucky to have a caring person like you as her mom!
    2336 days ago
    I so feel your pain and guilt!! I've struggled with that with my 14 year old. Who is with your children when you are at work? That person needs to be on board with whatever healthy guidelines you have for the family. I like the idea of planning meals together beforehand. Plan some activities, too. But, as I'm sure you know, do NOT make it about weight. I ask my kids to help me. As in, I'll try to do sit ups as long as they can, or who can plank the longest.

    Good luck, and God bless!

    btw, I found your blog because I searched for zeal. And I liked your quotes, especially the Bible verse. Do you still use zeal? Thanks, Allison
    2343 days ago
    You could encourage her to walk and ride bikes or whatever she wants to get out and move with you. Does she know how to cook? Planning and cooking healthy meals might be something she enjoys. emoticon
    2351 days ago
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    Gina....how old is your daughter now? Kids pudge out just before they have their major growth spurt. It's especially visable just before pre teen years. One of my children was majorly chubby before his growth spurt came on.
    I often go to focus on the family for help. They are a wonderful resource and if you ever need to talk to someone they are there to talk, listen and pray with you. Check them out. I'll be praying for you Gina....as you know talking about weight can be very touchy. But God said He would give us wisdom if we ask for it. I know He will help you.
    Love you Girlie! I'll be praying!!!! emoticon
    2353 days ago
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