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Resilience (BLC26 Challenge Log)

Sunday, October 05, 2014

I often wished that I had a higher IQ, but one good thing I was born with is resilience. This trait has defined my life. Growing up was tough- both my parents suffered from extreme, untreated depression. My father had serious substance abuse problems during the most formulative years of my life. He was around 70 before he quit that lifestyle. My family was poor and to this day I and my children are the only ones in the entire extended family who graduated from college and married happily. Luck and resilience helped me do this. Along the way I put my own life at great peril many times during my teens and young adulthood. I wish I had not engaged in those awful things but I somehow survived so it is senseless to dwell on that past. I think I would go nuts if I spend too much time thinking about my past reckless, self-endangering behavior, so I deal with this by not going back except to reflect on how much better my life is today.
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  • LADYJ6942
    Thank you for sharing, resilience is definitely a perfect title. Hugs and I'm glad to have met you here.
    2184 days ago
  • -LAUREN-
    Thank you for sharing! I'm happy you broke your families cycle, not just for you but for your children too. It looks like they took after you and your resilience!
    2184 days ago
    emoticon STRENGTH - thanks for sharing.
    2184 days ago
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    I agree that having resilience is a trait that helps people make it through tough situations. There have been studies done on people that have experienced traumatic events both short term and long term. The ones that possessed a measure of resilience are the ones that were able to go on to have healthy lives.
    I too came from a very bad background and made many poor choices. Resilience is something that I possess as well.
    Thank you for sharing this with us !
    2184 days ago

    Comment edited on: 10/6/2014 1:25:18 PM
    I agree with Melanie. It is good to let go of the past. My sister can't let go of the past and consequently, I think she's a far more stressed person than I am. Letting go is hard but if you can do it, kudos to you.
    2185 days ago
    I feel sorry for people who can't let their pasts go. I think the media often exacerbates that by setting people up for pity. For instance, if a victim of abuse is told "Poor, poor you!!!" over and over, it would make it quite hard to go on with a healthy mindset. I also would not like to use my early life as an excuse for anything I do today.
    2185 days ago
  • no profile photo CD5747035
    Many people can't seem to let go of their pasts and it often defines them. You have broken through that and,it seems, become a better person for it. I don't think many people realize how hard this is to do. emoticon
    2185 days ago
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