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Monday, December 01, 2014


The Globe and Mail has a provocative article rooted in epigenetics on the relationship between obesity during puberty and the "almost inevitable" obesity of kids born (even much later) to mothers who were themselves obese during puberty.

Epigenetics -- the science that tells us certain genes get "turned on" by environmental factors. Such as pre-maternal obesity during puberty.

Oh my. Something else to feel guilty about, mums. Something else to blame our own mothers for too.

As if obesity isn't complicated.

My own DD has very successfully taken responsibility for her metabolism: thank goodness. With healthy veganism and daily workouts and yoga. Carrying herself with pride and dignity, looking the picture of vitality from the inside out.

And I'm taking responsibility for dealing with my two "up pounds" myself. Me. Not pointing the finger at my own mother, long since departed.

Yeah. Because no matter who caused that difficult metabolism -- it's my issue to deal with. Now. Simple? Sure. Not easy though. And blaming doesn't help.
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    We're stuck with our genetics. I love Phebess' comment. My Eastern European peasant ancestry plays a part, but they didn't have to deal with processed foods. That part is up to me.
    1951 days ago
    Yep, blaming doesn't help...but BECK helps! Gee, when mom didn't provide the epitome of a healthy-eating role model, Beck provides us with those crucial "steps" to get there!
    1951 days ago
    I've got one DD who will always struggle and one who never will.
    Where's that come in to play?
    1951 days ago
  • MARGOH12
    I quite agree, there's no point in blaming other people for your problems. It's all too easy to point the metaphorical finger while not taking responsibility for your own life.
    1951 days ago
    If that were true, I wouldn't need SparkPeople. My mother has ALWAYS been tiny, ate right, and exercised.
    1951 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/2/2014 6:33:05 AM
  • _LINDA
    lol PHEBESS, feel exactly the same way!! I inherited that cursed pear shape body that is just perfect for packing on the saddlebags. Oh well. Work, work work, fight, fight fight!
    1951 days ago
    Agreed. The facts of life should not be used as an excuse while we CAN do something about them. And often, we can. Big girl panties... UP!
    1952 days ago
    Oh have I ever beaten myself up over the poor role model I've been in the past for my son.

    BUT: I've turned this around into a major MOTIVATOR as well...to be a better role model NOW is better late than NEVER!

    And DS has found his way back to health along with me.


    1952 days ago
    I often help employees sort through difficult clients' issues with the phrase, "Their (mental) health issue explains the behavior, it does not excuse the behavior." Genetics is one of many contributing factors, right?
    1952 days ago
    The last sentence says it all . . . the "blame game" isn't going to achieve what you want to achieve!

    1952 days ago
    Absolutely! No matter what the cause finger-pointing and blame won't get the job done. No matter what our issue, WE are the ones responsible for dealing with it.

    I swear, WHAT will they find next???
    1952 days ago
    We're emoticon having to fight all the genetic battles and still be winning them, even though we experience a lot of struggles in between. No to giving up!! We are the change.
    1952 days ago
    1952 days ago
  • GLORYB83
    I totally agree with you!
    1952 days ago
    Blaming doesn't help, you are right. My fat mother and father overfed me and undoubtedly gave me both genetics and environment that made it very difficult for me to control my weight in my youth. But, yes, I can overcome that start. For the most part I have. Interesting, though.
    1952 days ago
    emoticon with you!
    1952 days ago
  • GABY1948
    Thankfully, my kids have done things to lose their weight, well, DS2 is NOW doing it. My mother was THIN...my weight was all from a messed up childhood only just now understanding WHAT it was that started it!

    I have to tell you though, this was true for MY kids...I was already FAT (yes, fat) when I had them....so a few years back I sat them both down and APOLOGIZED to them but, unfortunately they would ultimately be responsible for learning to eat properly and they both ARE....from ME!

    EXCELLENT blog, WATERMELLEN and I love all the comments!

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    1952 days ago
    Your right. I could point the finger at my mother for my life long weight issues, but as adults we do need to take responsibility for controlling our own weight. Ta-Da and here we are at SP!

    My children have never had to deal with weight issues. I would like to think that some of that had to do with how I raised them - healthy eating, regular exercise. And today as my DD maintains her healthy lifestyle I am happy to see that she is passing this on to her children also. Of course, you can't deny that genes plays some part in all of this. So I am thankful she seems to have gotten all of the "good" weight genes!
    1952 days ago
    Thanks for sharing
    1952 days ago
    I have the same body make up as my mom, my sister, that of my dad. Sister is lean, with very low body fat, regardless of workouts and such. She's got the metabolism. Mom is heavy. I've struggled with my weight too. However, no matter the metabolism, I've eaten TERRIBLY to make myself gain weight. Eating right and exercising, and I still have a thicker layer of body fat than my sister, but I sure don't have the extras I did. However, weight loss and gain, it is genetics and such, but only to a point. I look like my mom. However, I can workout, eat right and NOT gain weight. When I eat terribly, I gain it faster than others, that is okay, the key is to not eat terribly then! Besides, if I don't take the blame for the gain, I can't take the praise for the loss!
    1952 days ago
  • NANCY-
    The Blame game is so old.
    We must accept and own the responsibility, consequences and rewards. We all have a foundation to work from... it is up to us to chose how we work it.
    1952 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/1/2014 8:40:37 AM
    I blame my ancestors from, oh, maybe 1000 or so years ago, the ones who moved to Russia where it made sense to have layers of fat cells to insulate against the freezing weather.

    (I'm sorry, I couldn't help myself.)

    All we have is this lifetime. And how we live our life is our choice. To eat nutritiously, to exercise, to have a positive outlook. We choose to do that. Or be miserable. Our choice.
    1952 days ago
  • no profile photo CD14895051
    Environmental, genetic and personality factors can make it harder to be and stay slim, but they're not the reason.

    1952 days ago
    I'd love to be able to blame my mother, but it was the bread and pretzels that did it.
    1952 days ago
    I like the comments about looking at genetics playing a factor, not just the pre and pregnancy period. We inherited genes from our ancestors. Those affect our children no matter what the pregnancy was like. However, it is food for thought.

    I like the idea of taking responsibility for our weight no matter what the genetic inheritance is!
    1952 days ago
    your daughter sounds like my daughter! no, blaming doesn't help - but being proactive does. and we areā€¦
    1952 days ago
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