You Can't have it all
Sunday, January 18, 2015
So my life is complicated. Most people's are. I'm in the middle of the converting from cyber school to regular home school for my youngest child and it's been taking up a good deal of my "free" time. Yet I have actually found time to exercise, just about every day. It's not what I want to be doing, which is running, but it's something. And something is better than nothing.
I realized some time ago that I CAN'T have it all. I have a LOT of things I want to do with my life. I've always been ambitious and goal-orientated. But the fact of my life is that I have limited time (same number of hours in the day as everyone else, of course!), so I have to pick my priorities. I would love to take classes in photography, quilting, piano, travel the world, go on a missions' trip, help people in my church, go for a very demanding job, and the list goes on and on. But since I have priorities, that focuses me on things I must do to meet my top goals.
My top goals right now are: family relationships (kids, husband, and sisters), financial (paying down our debt with a goal towards being debt free), Spiritual (church, Bible study, prayer, service, and discipling my children), schooling (homeschooling for my youngest, ties in with the family relationships goal and the discipleship goal), decluttering and organizing my home, and finally (not last on the list, but of equal importance), health and fitness for myself and my family.
Those major goals leave very little room for anything else on top of a full time job. I have let go of things, like a trip to Texas, because it didn't fit in with my financial and the rest of the plans. I have let go of taking classes for now, because it doesn't fit in with my major goals. I let go of taking a missions' trip because it would not be in line with my major goals. I actually did not go for what had been something of my "dream job" because I knew the demands on my time would be too much for me to keep up with my other major goals (and would also cause me a lot more stress, also in conflict with the other goals).
When I make a decision whether I can or cannot fit something into my life, I have to ask myself, does it fit in with these major goals? Will it enhance and help me towards these goals, or will it actually delay or detract from them?
These goals are fluid and can and will change over time. For now, I have to continually learn contentment (which is not the same as complacency...another blog on that to come some time). I know what I want, I know (somewhat) how to get it, and this will help me determine when I can say "yes" to something and when I must say "no".