Friday, February 20, 2015
So I'm 71 pounds down since the surgery in mid November. I'm closing in on a number I haven't seen in DECADES! I'm wearing clothes that have languished in the back of my closet for YEARS! And I have to go buy new panties, lol.
When I first started considering this journey my husband was very afraid that I'd "change" after losing a lot of weight. And I've seen a lot of statistics that many marriages don't survive this journey. But . . . I haven't changed (except in positive ways - my husband likes that I don't put myself down any more) and I think the marriages that don't survive are the ones that shouldn't have happened in the first place.
As big women we tend to think that we deserve any man who will have us and then, when we lose weight we realize we DON'T have to settle. If my husband and I don't make it, this won't be the problem. I chose him even though I had other options AND I believe that being alone is also a viable option. IF he continues to act right (there's a history of his cheating) then we can stay together but not if he goes back to his old behavior.
Anyway, I feel like I'm in a good place right now. :-D