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A Good Talkin' to

Thursday, March 19, 2015

HONESTLY, I don't know why people keep reading my blogs here...It's the same old story: Get motivated, get determined and psyched....lose a couple of pounds....stumble a bit ...and regain the "couple of pounds."

What happened? Well my DH bought me a massive brownie. Isn't he sweet?? But honestly --he KNOWS I'm doing ETL and he KNOWS I can't resist a treat like that.
And last night I was all set to cook a healthy dinner....and he ordered pizza. I didn't want to cook only for me (which is really what I should have done) so I had one small piece of pizza. Now the logical part of me knows that those two cheats are really not going to cause me significant weight gain....I know that the two pound gain is likely water weight or due to bowel issues from pain meds that I had to take yesterday. So why do i feel so crushed? It's that darned scale again. My nemesis. But I know if I gave up weighing altogether, I would not remain "in check."

So what do I do? Try to get the bowels moving again....and get right back on the path of healthy eating. My husband just on Monday was talking about how he needs to follow ETL because he is going to drop dead very soon if he doesn't. So why did he order an Italian sub that same day (along with the brownies) and yesterday he ordered pizza in spite of the fact that i'd told him what I was making and I know it was something he would eat? He is self destructing. And he is trying to take me with him.

I have to just put blinders on. I have a menu written up for this week. I need to stick to it and not pay any attention to what he is doing. Yes, I will offer him some of what I am making...but no...I will not eat what HE is eating. It makes me so sad....the answer to his illness is right there on the plate I put in front of him. But as the saying goes: you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. I know I will be widowed soon unless he gets his act together. He is completely addicted to toxic foods and there is nothing I can do or say to make living important enough to sacrifice his wanton appetite for it.

And YOU, Mr Scale, You do NOT have the ability to discourage me. I know the facts. The facts are that I ate two things I shouldn't have...and that gave you fodder for a lie. I will not believe the lie--I will keep on doing what I know is right as I have been...I will continue to eat healthfully - a high nutrient diet, high in micronutrients and low in macronutrients. (carbs, fats, and protein) which is where all the calories dwell. I know that a plant based diet has more than adequate protein. If grass can keep a horse healthy without any added protein or animal products, then it can sustain "little" ole me. (well not grass exactly!)

Well, I don't know about you...but I needed this "talkin' to"....a few minutes ago as i stepped off the scale I was in a full blown panic, and ready to ditch the whole thing. I'm feeling better now; encouraged once again to stay with the program. and I DO thank you for reading my blog...We are in this together and emoticon


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  • WHITECAT19
    I keep reading because I have similar struggles! We encourage one another, and that is a huge help.
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    2011 days ago
  • _LINDA
    Oh those significant others!! Cause so much grief :-(( The whole idea of blogging and venting is to get support, especially when you have none at home. It doesn't matter if its downer news most of the time or not. Your friends will be here, thinking of you and praying for improvement in you and your hubby's life.
    Stand your ground! You are worth it!
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    2012 days ago
  • DONNA_W
    My husband is very supportive going so far as to only get ice cream or other treats when he is out by himself. He also is trying to loose weight, has great self control, but he is more of a meat and potatoes, or bread man. So what I tend to do is make him some sort of sandwich or wrap and I make me a salad in place of the bread. I also make him a pizza which is far more healthful than the one you get from a pizza place, but I do not eat it That way the pressure does not build up for going out to get a pizza. Food that works for both of us is not completely compatible it can be a challenge sometimes, but a challenge I find worth the effort. I want the food we eat to be a lifestyle change not just a temporary plan to loose weight. What helps me the best is having healthy options in the house that I can eat.
    2012 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/19/2015 7:15:07 PM
  • LUCYCAN7
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    2012 days ago
  • PJDANIELS
    Hubby and I have compromised. There will be an overlap of items in our dinners, but not the same proportions, (his mostly meat and potatoes, mine veges) but on nights he wants junk, he has it. I cook my own stuff and it works out just fine. Certainly if I lived alone I would be cooking my veges and not ordering take out. You need to take care of yourself whether hubby cooperates or not.
    2013 days ago
  • PGHP31CK
    Praying that your blinders will be on nice & tight AND that your hubby will wake up and "smell the veggies," so to speak.

    I'm fighting with Mr. Scale, too. I had a good week, stayed on track with food, exercise & hydration, and put 2 pounds back on . Sigh. Mr. Scale & my body aren't in sync right now -- my body's telling me that I'm moving in the right direction, but the scale says no. So, for today, fooey on Mr. Scale. I'm not letting this discourage me.

    Like you, I don't stay on track, if I don't weigh myself weekly. I also don't know what I'd do without SparkPeople!! This site is amazing -- great tools, and good people.

    Cynthia, you're right. We're in this together, and I'm cheering you on!!!!

    Hugs,
    Susan
    2013 days ago
  • BUSYBEE37
    I sometimes do the things your hubby does. It's like being defiant. "I DON'T WANT TO BE DOING THIS!!". An internal temper tantrum kind of thing. All I have to do is pick up a healthy/diet book and the battle is on. The oddity is that getting the weight off is so much rewarding. If only my mind and body would get on the same track! My BF isn't on board with my healthy goals either and he's in dire straits too. I try, he side tracks me. I try again. Back and forth, even though he'd like to be rid of the weight too.

    I hope you find success on your journey.

    I think this site has been the best thing for support because I'm sure not getting it at home :)

    Oh, and don't let the scale undo all your hard work, that is the most unreliable thing for gauging daily progress. I only get on mine weekly, or bi-weekly because it discourages me.


    2013 days ago

    Comment edited on: 3/19/2015 7:12:19 AM
  • KESTRYLL
    I have the same issues and feel the same way! emoticon
    2013 days ago
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