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Negativity distgracts me from my goals.....

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Seems like an odd thing to write about just two days after giving Thanks for so many things in my life. But today I was faced with a decision to be affected by "negativity" or to push it aside and focus on my end goal.

Today we celebrated our grandson's 4th birthday. He is the son of my step-son and daughter-in-law. It's been a long and difficult 20 years of creating a relationship with my step-son but we have managed to become great friends.

However, his mother (my husband's ex-wife) and his sister (my husband's step daughter) have made the journey very difficult. In fact, this is the first time I have participated in one of the "family" events in over 3 years - it was simply too difficult. For some reason, I have been blamed for every problem they have had with my husband, and probably for global warming and the war in Iraq. My step-daughter (who my husband has raised since she was 6 months old - the only Dad she ever knew) has gone so far as to tell him that unless he divorces me she will not have a relationship with him. And this was at least 10 years into our marriage when she was well over 30 and married!

I was anxious about going today but I now have a purpose and a focus for myself. Somehow that made it work for me. For the first time ever, I left the party and felt no stress or anxiety; in fact, I had a nice time!

Today I was able to laugh at the negativity!
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    BRAVO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    1644 days ago
    Be so proud of yourself. You have conquered their problems by ignoring them. They cannot get to you if you don't let them!!! Have an awesome day. Spark on.
    1644 days ago
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    1644 days ago
    I'm so glad that you have managed to forge a solid friendly relationship with your step-son! It's great to go the distance and see such positive results!
    1644 days ago
    Sometimes our own response to negativity magnifies a problem. Good job staying positive
    1645 days ago
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