Kindness and Valentine's Day
Saturday, February 13, 2016
Read a recent article about infidelity and marriage breakdown and the potential for recovery: that is, possibly infidelity isn't a "deal breaker" (and given the very high percentage of marriages in which infidelity occurs . . . . differing for men and women, as you'd expect: but still).
OK then: how to recover from infidelity? Recognizing that what "causes" infidelity is, say researchers, unkindness.
People look elsewhere when their partners stop being kind to them.
And marriages can recover from infidelity if people ask themselves, why did my wandering spouse look elsewhere? Can we repair this relationship by being kind to one another again?
Possibly not, of course. But it was an angle new to me.
Nancy Lamott: We can be kind.
And if there's going to be a split, it may be an easier split anyhow if we resume being kind.