When Pigs Fly.....
Wednesday, April 06, 2016
Wikipedia: "When pigs fly" is an adynaton (a figure of speech so exaggerated that it describes an impossibility), a way of saying that something will never happen.
So this morning I had a "when pigs fly" moment. Many of you know that I have an ex-husband, my high-school sweetheart who was challenging (to say the least) to live with, quit working so he could pursue his "art", and eventually left me after 23 years with 5 children to raise on my own. To say I was bitter & angry is an understatement.
My children were old enough to maintain a relationship with him without involving me. I rarely saw him and when I did I stayed as far away as possible - never interacting with him unless I had no choice. But years pass, I've mellowed, and because I am happier now than I ever was married to him we started to communicate. The first time was when our son had a minor procedure done on his heart in 2005. The next time was when he got married in 2011. The third time was in 2012 for the boys' 30th birthday. Then, for the sake of our children, he & his wife started to join us at holiday celebrations.
So here's the impossible thing. He is now divorced for a 3rd time and needs help with financial-type things. He asked me to do his income taxes this year, so I did. Today he called because he's confused about Medicare and the associated supplemental health plans. I told him I would email him detailed information so he could decide. He said "I just want you to tell me what to do." I said, "I lost that right several years ago and when I HAD that right you never listened." He laughed and has given me a pass - one time of telling him what to do.
If you had asked me 10 years ago if this could ever happen, I'd have said absolutely NOT. But today it seems like the most normal thing. And my own Tom who has been a wonderful husband and step-father for 21 years, thinks its funny. He likes my ex-husband - they actually have more than me in common!
Today gives me hope that change CAN happen and I'm very happy about that!