Conversations about getting help.
Thursday, July 14, 2016
Thank goodness that by yesterday DH looked and felt as good as he had 3 weeks ago! Done with IV antibiotics, his PICC was removed and he could get a good scrubbing in the warm shower. Ahhhhhh!
Did I mention I'm getting physical therapy? I have been utilizing the gym while DH has PT and I thought I may have overdone something; I had some pain in my hip and back. Proper Rx in hand, I met with the doctors who now count as friends-we've been there 3x a week since December!
Each visit I've had every vertebrate joint manipulated and back muscles rubbed for what seems like heaven/tortured hours. The exercises I'm doing are new to me and I notice improvement. The really small muscles in my pelvis weren't getting used and I was using my back muscles for everything. Old dog, new tricks.
I didn't expect their diagnosis and recommendations:
You're doing too much.
What your are doing at home isn't helping.
I discussed this with DH and he suggested I get a cleaning service as he watched me vacuum.
I vacuum once a week unless something is dragged in. I dust on the fly. Cooking is minimal. Dishwasher runs every other day. Would a cleaning service really help? I don't think so. It's only the two of us and we're not messy.
I have a lawn service. Nothing there.
Groceries? It'd be nice to have help taking things out of the car, but....
Sorry dude, it's the personal care.
Lifting, bending, dressing him. I have to set up the extended shower chair and shower him. Put the walker in the car (the wheelchair is infrequently used) and drive everywhere. On bad days I'm the extra handle. On good days I get my hand held.
I need free time to exercise daily to keep strong and he can't be left alone too long.
Now that the subject has been broached, I can investigate without a twinge of guilt.