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TOXIC SHAME AND SOCIAL, SEXUAL OR EMOTIONAL ANOREXIA

Friday, July 22, 2016

Today I just wanted to post this blog around these topics. I am not sure that I am permitted to post the names of the authors and books here, so I would suggest if my words apply to you, or someone you love who might be afflicted by these things look them up on line.
If you cannot find the information, just drop me a message on my Spark page.

The symptoms can include deep, deep dislike, loathing and even hate of yourself from as far back as you can remember.
Beating yourself up for every little thing that goes wrong thinking it is all your fault.
Believing you are a failure at life, living, relationships and just about anything you touch
Fear of Hell, God, and other assorted deep fears if insecurity, that you deserve to be punished. Guilt, fear and withdrawal from the world are all normal parts of this condition.
It can include agoraphobia, social phobia, becoming a recluse. Fear of people, places and things.

It can lead to physical addiction of all kinds - emotional conditions - depression and others
All things about it are negative. It takes any joy or colour or fun out of life. And is just about one of the most miserable conditions in which to live.

That authors are writing about these conditions from their own experience and the way to recover is wonderful. I am so grateful - for becoming free after a lifetime of being both full of toxic shame and living with anorexia. I tried to cover it up by putting on a mask and pretending I was outgoing and in control of my life - and to all outward appearances I was.
But it was a mask and the second I got home I became real - the terrified, insecure being I was at core. Self hate, self criticism, self abuse in whatever form can all relate back to this self- loathing and punishment of the self.

To anyone who reads these words and understands them. There is help. Please go on line and just put in the words Toxic Shame. There is a simple explanation first and then several other people have now written on the subject.

Blessing to you all.
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  • POOHBEARFACE
    Living like this is so painful. Unconditional acceptance and love helps.
    "The first step toward change is awareness. The second is acceptance."
    --Nathaniel Brandon emoticon That one is for me. emoticon That one is for you.
    1557 days ago
  • KALIGIRL
    emoticon for sharing my emoticon
    1593 days ago
  • AJDOVER1
    blessings to you, Wispy! Thank you for reaching out with this important information.
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    1594 days ago
  • ICECUB
    thanks for sharingg
    1594 days ago
  • SDEHNKE
    Funny that this came up today. I don't remember my dreams very often but I remember last night's. I spent some sleeping hours rehashing all the failings in my life and woke up crying. I grew up idolizing my father and I couldn't ever do anything good enough. Even getting a 4.0 in college he said if he was giving the tests that I wouldn't have gotten a 4.0. I guess I don't need to go through it all again but the feeling has stayed with me today and that may be why I treated myself to ice cream this afternoon.

    Suellen
    1595 days ago
  • SHERRY666
    GREAT BLOG WISPY.......... GOOD IDEA TO LET PEOPLE KNOW IF THEY NEED HELP FOR THIS IT IS ONLINE......... ONE THING I CAN RELATE TO IS THE MASK........ I WORE MORE THEN ONE MASK WITH DIFFERENT PEOPLE...... IT'S NICE I DON'T HAVE TO WEAR A MASK ANYMORE....... THIS IS ME AND I LIKE ME THE WAY I AM..... IF OTHERS DON'T THAT'S TOO BAD.... I WILL NEVER HAVE THE NEED TO WEAR A MASK AGAIN.......... THANKS FOR SHARING. emoticon
    1595 days ago
  • KOHINOOR2
    emoticon Thank you for sharing.
    1595 days ago
  • JUST-ELIZ
    emoticon and Love
    Thank You for sharing Wispy. I full well remember hating myself for years. It's easy to go back there, but never again.
    1595 days ago
  • PHOENIX1949
    'Wispy Wisdom' is greatly appreciated.
    1595 days ago
  • BECCABOO127
    emoticon for the information!

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    1595 days ago
  • BANANASLOUIE7
    It was kind of you to share your feelings and offer assistance to others! Thank you!
    1595 days ago
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