Approval Addiction: Steve Siebold
Tuesday, May 02, 2017
Many of us Sparkie MAINtainers are graduates of Steve Siebold's amazing (and free) online course, www.fatlosers.com
It's dated but it's still highly effective. And oh yeah: in your face, controversial -- Steve Siebold is all of that. He says (rather proudly) that many many people drop out of his Fat Losers program about day 4: if they last that long. But he thinks that Mental Toughness is essential to achieving any life goal: and he founded what he calls the Mental Toughness University in a commercial/corporate context to teach and to coach Fortune 500 executives business survival strategies. The Fat Losers series was a spin off for him: he himself put on weight after leaving his pro tennis career to move into the corporate world and discovered that his obesity was affecting his "brand". He just didn't look like a person with the self-discipline required to succeed in business. He was being judged on his appearance: unfair but he says inevitable. So: he lost the weight and kept it off and shared with others (free) just how he went about doing it.
One of my big takeaways from Fat Losers (and I've watched the series, day by day, many times when my motivation needed a reboot) was Siebold's assertion that "addiction to the approval of others is the most insidious addiction of all".
And now he's marketing an Addiction Approval boot camp. Nope, I won't be taking it myself: it's pretty pricey.
But addiction to the approval of others is something which I believe affects weight loss and MAINtenance for many many people. Especially women who by and large still bear the responsibility for planning meals, buying food, preparing meals, serving meals, cleaning up after meals -- both day to day and for social events and entertaining. And are "rated" by their families and friends on how well they do it. And who themselves cannot eat the foods if they're going to meet the oppressive ideals of body weight/appearance also imposed upon them, while also meeting the equally oppressive ideals of being the ideal mother, ideal wife, ideal worker in significant careers, ideal homemaker and interior decorator: and on and on and on.
If avoiding temptation is a key strategy for weight loss and weight loss maintenance -- because will power is in limited supply and quickly fails -- then it's not hard to see why addiction approval is hard: and especially for women. Particularly when all these responsibilities also subtract from the time women especially can allocate for fitness. Heck, even for sleep!! And particularly when approval addiction is something we "internalize". "I'm just not a good wife/mother/worker if I don't host my husband's corporate dinner parties/bake cookies for the school bake sale/attend at every cocktail party in my own workplace . . . looking like a million bucks on each and every occasion of course!!"
I do wonder if Siebold is making linkages between his new Approval Addiction boot camp and his old Fat Losers series!!
What do you think? Does approval addiction affect your weight loss and weight loss MAINtenance efforts?