Wednesday, May 03, 2017
Most people who commented on the Addiction Approval blog yesterday think that they've "grown out of it" over time: that it doesn't affect them now as much as it used to. (Incidentally, I watched again Siebold's introductory video clip for the www.fatlosers.com
21 day series: still free, and still as beguiling as ever!! Maybe I'll reboot that series again soon: just a little revaccination for myself to boost my addiction approval immunity!!!)
Susan Pinker's new book, The Village Effect, is kinda interesting in light of Siebold's approval addiction theory: because Susan Pinker tells us that the ONE single most important factor in predicting longevity is a person's close relationships and social interactions. NOT whether they smoke, drink, exercise or even have a heart condition. Human interactions have the biggest effect on our emotional and physical health. And: the health impact of social interactions is triggered only face-to-face in the personal contacts triggering the cascading neurotransmitters which just don't happen by text or email. Shaking hands, eye contact: these simple and relatively non-intimate activities are enough to lower cortisone levels and release dopamine, reducing stress immediately in the present with significant long-range consequences.
We need social interaction IRL for optimum health. For many of us, beyond our families (and people increasingly are living solo or with only one or two family members) work provides that: through interaction with colleagues and clients.
And people generally only want to hang out with ya if they approve of ya, at least at some level . . . . .
So: are there some biological benefits to being addicted to the approval of others? Wouldn't it be interesting to hear Susan Pinker and Steve Siebold debate the approval addiction/village effect connection or disconnection?