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Busy Day/Responsibility

Tuesday, June 27, 2017

So I am going to work out today, I didn't yesterday because I knew how much work I had to do and I didn't want to wear myself out first thing in the morning. Kinda the same thing now only I'm going to work out after I get home, no matter how tired I am. You see today is a very busy day, I have appointments and errands today and I'm not looking forward to it, but I kinda am. Just to see if I can handle having a day this busy again, without getting so exhausted I have to come home before I'm done with my errands. I'm going to be home sporadically throughout the day because home is on my way from one side to the other (I live on a lake, there are no shortcuts). Some stuff is in one direction, some in the other, lol.

But I will at least do the strength training when I get home, I can't miss that. My core is weak, and I need to build it up. I need to build up muscle in general, but especially my core. I don't want to end up with a hernia and the doc says I'm going to if I don't build up my core. Yikes.

So I got sent a Mommy blog on kids responsibility and it really resonated with me. I had so much responsibility when I was my kids age, I avoid giving them much, and that is such a disservice to them. Having them do a chore list is not too much to ask. I'm afraid to give them too much because I don't want to overburden them like I was. But asking them to sweep a room is not the same as me raising my niece and nephew. Or any of the other stuff I was in charge of. Not by half. So I found some chore charts, gave them an equal amount of chores and we start today! They read them and acted like it was the end of the world. That alone told me they needed more responsibility. I did come up with a reward system. When we get financially stable after buying the house, they will get an allowance according to what they get finished. Till then they will get 'credits' toward buying fun rewards like ice cream and such.

Then I realized how much TV they have been watching since school ended. Yikes! I feel like that Mom that lets the TV babysit their kids. It's not that bad, but I still feel awful about it. So, no TV till all chores are done, packing for the day is done (or we are on break), and then I'm not sure. I have to think about it. But I refuse to let them watch tons of TV. I realized they were watching the same shows over and over. So I found new shows for them to watch, more their age instead of little kids shows, and shows that I've watched that I know are okay for them to see. I'm going to enforce reading time as well. Though most of our books are packed now, I'm going to find the box that had their current books in them and get them out for now.

And I discovered that one of the reasons I hate house work so much is because I did so much when I was my kids age. Especially laundry and dishes. And those are the things I loathe doing the most. And polishing wood. We had a lot of wood furnisher that had to be polished. So I'm going to get over it. I'm a grown adult and not an overburdened little kid. I GET to do these things for my family. We have a roof over our heads and dishes to clean and laundry to fold.... I'd say I'm pretty blessed for that and i need to start thinking of it that way instead of avoiding it like the plague. For example, pots were my job. I now hate doing pots and this one huge pot in particular I just won't wash, I'll leave it for DH to wash. So it sits there. Time for me to put on my big girl panties and just do it. I'm not 9 any more. I do this because I want to do it for my family. And now I want to do it for me. I need to let go of the past hurts and move on.

What about you? What is holding you back from your full potential? I could have a clean house and an organized house, but I let past hurts get in the way. I'm letting go of that and moving on as best I can. I'm going to get my kids to help, slowly so it doesn't overwhelm them, and I'll help them as well, teaching them how to do these things as we go along.

OH! I found the neatest old cookbook!! I goes through the basics of everything on cooking, I can't remember it's name, but it goes from how to measure and the basics of a food type, then basic recipes moving up slowly to more complicated recipes with that food. Me and the kids are going to go through it. I think it ill be a great way to teach them (and me) how to cook! I think it is called The Joy of Cooking? It was published in 1980. We are going to wait till we get to the new house and unpack everything we can.

Hope you have a great Tuesday and kick today's butt!! emoticon
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