Friday, November 17, 2017
Do I have rules for eating?
I know that many years ago, when I was about 11, I decided to give up soft drinks. This rule stuck. I rarely drink soft drinks, opting for water, or wine instead. (I had a friend who thought it was hilarious that my drinking options were red wine or water, I can't explain how it developed that way. When I started drinking, I preferred wine to any other alcoholic drink, and as I've aged, this is how my drinking habits have developed.) I also find it very easy to only drink one or two glasses of wine. It's another rule that has developed over time and works.
This rule has worked very well for me. It sticks and its very simple.
I know we have rules about buying crisps and chocolate for the house. We don't unless we have guests. I rarely struggle with the crisps rule, but if they are in the house and the bag is open, it is hard for me to only have a few.
My struggle, however, is chocolate. When I first lost my weight on spark people, I introduced a few strict rules that I now know I have to return to:
1. Throw out any chocolate that is given to me (or my 2 year old) as a gift.
This is because once I start I can't stop. A box of chocolate in the house will be finished within half an hour, which is not healthy or beneficial to me. Much as I hate to throw out a gift, I need to face this reality. I have to throw it out. With regards to my 2 year old, the ugly truth is that I end up eating it instead of him. That may change over time, but this is my current reality. And, lets face it, often these chocolates are not the best quality.
2. Do not eat any sweet snacks at social events, in staff rooms, or in waiting rooms.
This is because it is impossible for me to know how many calories are in these treats, they are generally unplanned snacks, and, once I start I will struggle to stop.
3. Keep tracking my calories. If I slip up, include the snacks into my plan, and if I have reached my calorie limit, or gone over it, stop eating for the day.
That way, I won't feel like I have failed in my weight-loss goals. I can win back some of the loss.
4. Plan one sweet treat a day.
The secret to this? Plan it. A small, high-quality piece of dark chocolate that I know I will love and be able to look forward to, will make sticking to rules one and two easier. Years ago, this worked well because my husband and I used to buy and excellent box of chocolates that used to have only two of the same flavour chocolate piece. At the end of the day, we would each have the same piece and talk about whether we enjoyed it, or not. As there were only two of the same flavour, there was no way I could sneak in some chocolate with him no noticing! However, the brand changed their packaging and now they offer three of the same flavour. We gave up on the boxes, because we were both unable to prevent ourselves going and eating the chocolates during the day because it was harder to measure if any had been eaten! So, I need to find another option, here. We now live in a small town, rather than London, so our options regarding quality confectionary are much more limited. We live around the corner from the sweet shop, though, so perhaps I could chat with the owner and see if they would be willing to sell me one of their chocolates a day along with a cup of tea. That might work.