My dear SparkFriends,
I don't have time to write much right now, as everybody's home, and we're having a celebratory feast this evening. We waited until Mari came home from Tokyo before we cook the Christmas turkey. And I'm way behind in my Sparking, so I'm afraid I'm missing all y'all's news. I hope you're all okay and not experiencing any crises, not only because I want everyone to have a peaceful holiday, but also I would hate to lose the chance to offer you the kind of love and support you always offer to me when something bad happens here. Thank you so much for everything. I will get back to regular Sparking very soon.
I do, however, want to take a few minutes to update you all on my nephew Perrin, as several people have asked how he's doing, and I have finally gotten some information that's specific enough to share. His back was broken in two places, and it was feared that his paralysis would be complete and permanent, but the spinal surgery went well, and Perrin has an amazingly positive attitude about his plight, and his recovery is progressing. He is still, of course, immobile on his hospital bed most of the day, but they are forcing him to sit in a special chair for an hour or two a day as well, which apparently is an important part of the healing process. I'm sorry to be so generic in this description, but I haven't had time to study all the details. The most important thing is how the medical team summed up Perrin's prognosis, which is this: "Perrin will be able to take care of himself." It's not yet clear what exactly this means, but at least it means that he will not be totally dependent on others forever. Whether it means he will walk normally again and be able to hold down a job, not even the doctors can say, but you know what? With Perrin's strength, courage, and sense of humor, I am very optimistic that he will once again be a fully functioning member of society, a loving husband, and an excellent father. He is due to be transferred to a rehab facility in the next week or so. I will keep you updated when I know more.
I also want to tell you how this has affected my own spiritual growth. I will tell more stories to illustrate this when I have time , but in general, Perrin's accident has made me realize how pessimistic and dark I tend to be, and how I so easily give up when a difficulty arises. Hearing about Perrin's attitude toward his grave injury--he did not hang his head and give up or say, "Why me?" or blame anyone, but instead seemed barely fazed, seeming to treat it merely as just another hard day to get through--all this made me resolve to change my own reactions to what are clearly the smaller problems I face every day. For Perrin, simply to be able to go home someday soon and be with his wife, who was released from the hospital a couple of days ago, and his baby girl, who's missing him, is now the epitome of happiness.
So today, even though my life is far from perfect, with two adult children who cannot decide what career paths to follow and another living in Tokyo, where a massive earthquake or errant missile from neighboring North Korea is always a nagging concern for a worry-wart like me, I take my cue from Perrin, who from his hospital bed jokes around with the doctors and nurses, pushes himself past the pain every day during therapy so as to make a quicker recovery and go home, and just generally radiates good will and the joy of life. I want to be more like that. Everything happens for a reason. Perrin has a long way to go, but this process is clearly making him a stronger person and inspiring others to change and grow spiritually in the way that he is doing with such grace and dignity.
I turn sixty-one today, and I'm glad! Made it through another year! The coming year will be the best ever! I'll be back soon to read up on all my SparkFriends' news. Hang in there, sweet friends!