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Update on Nephew--Good News!

Friday, December 29, 2017

My dear SparkFriends,

I don't have time to write much right now, as everybody's home, and we're having a celebratory feast this evening. We waited until Mari came home from Tokyo before we cook the Christmas turkey. And I'm way behind in my Sparking, so I'm afraid I'm missing all y'all's news. I hope you're all okay and not experiencing any crises, not only because I want everyone to have a peaceful holiday, but also I would hate to lose the chance to offer you the kind of love and support you always offer to me when something bad happens here. Thank you so much for everything. I will get back to regular Sparking very soon.

I do, however, want to take a few minutes to update you all on my nephew Perrin, as several people have asked how he's doing, and I have finally gotten some information that's specific enough to share. His back was broken in two places, and it was feared that his paralysis would be complete and permanent, but the spinal surgery went well, and Perrin has an amazingly positive attitude about his plight, and his recovery is progressing. He is still, of course, immobile on his hospital bed most of the day, but they are forcing him to sit in a special chair for an hour or two a day as well, which apparently is an important part of the healing process. I'm sorry to be so generic in this description, but I haven't had time to study all the details. The most important thing is how the medical team summed up Perrin's prognosis, which is this: "Perrin will be able to take care of himself." It's not yet clear what exactly this means, but at least it means that he will not be totally dependent on others forever. Whether it means he will walk normally again and be able to hold down a job, not even the doctors can say, but you know what? With Perrin's strength, courage, and sense of humor, I am very optimistic that he will once again be a fully functioning member of society, a loving husband, and an excellent father. He is due to be transferred to a rehab facility in the next week or so. I will keep you updated when I know more.

I also want to tell you how this has affected my own spiritual growth. I will tell more stories to illustrate this when I have time , but in general, Perrin's accident has made me realize how pessimistic and dark I tend to be, and how I so easily give up when a difficulty arises. Hearing about Perrin's attitude toward his grave injury--he did not hang his head and give up or say, "Why me?" or blame anyone, but instead seemed barely fazed, seeming to treat it merely as just another hard day to get through--all this made me resolve to change my own reactions to what are clearly the smaller problems I face every day. For Perrin, simply to be able to go home someday soon and be with his wife, who was released from the hospital a couple of days ago, and his baby girl, who's missing him, is now the epitome of happiness.

So today, even though my life is far from perfect, with two adult children who cannot decide what career paths to follow and another living in Tokyo, where a massive earthquake or errant missile from neighboring North Korea is always a nagging concern for a worry-wart like me, I take my cue from Perrin, who from his hospital bed jokes around with the doctors and nurses, pushes himself past the pain every day during therapy so as to make a quicker recovery and go home, and just generally radiates good will and the joy of life. I want to be more like that. Everything happens for a reason. Perrin has a long way to go, but this process is clearly making him a stronger person and inspiring others to change and grow spiritually in the way that he is doing with such grace and dignity.

I turn sixty-one today, and I'm glad! Made it through another year! The coming year will be the best ever! I'll be back soon to read up on all my SparkFriends' news. Hang in there, sweet friends!

Love, Carolyn

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    I’m behind on checking in on SP too as you can see! Thanks for sharing!
    712 days ago
    I got goose bumps reading your blog. Happy belated birthday to you, and best wishes for continued healing for your wonderful nephew Perrin.
    880 days ago
    924 days ago
    Oh Carolyn! What an amazing young man he is. I too will take a cue from him- I will learn to focus on the positive. Depression is real, but it won't beat me. Thank your nephew for his example to so many. He has filled me with determination. Hugs sent
    943 days ago
    Okay...NOW I know why we 'click' dear Carolyn! As one strappy Cappy to another, I wish you a wonderful (belated) birthday and an even MORE wonderful year ahead. You know it's said that Capricorn's do not grow older..they only become younger and more light-hearted as the years roll by.

    Here's to US...and a brilliant year ahead! emoticon emoticon emoticon Happy belated Birthday my beautiful friend! emoticon emoticon Let's make this year ROCK for us! emoticon
    949 days ago
    Dear Carolyn,
    Just read two of your blogs and am SO SORRY about the accident your nephew Perrin was in with his wife and baby daughter. emoticon emoticon What a TERRIBLE Shock and blow to you and the family. After reading Dec.24 and this one today, for Dec. 29, update I am SO HAPPY to hear he is doing much BETTER and things will be ok possibly for him to take care of himself. Prayers will be coming your way for all this worry and sadness but also now to be so THANKFUL that things will get better for him. Praise GOD.

    also not to forget, but belated HAPPY BIRTHDAY To you dear friend. emoticon My sis is the day after yours (30th) and hard time of year since in a way you get forgotten due to Christmas day. Hope your Birthday turned out to be a Happy and REJOICING one due to the GOOD News about Perrin. Hugs and Blessings and Love to you Carolyn. Will keep reading each day to try to keep in touch more.
    Had a hard 7-1/2 months since May 17th as you may remember with my loss of Bill, my sweet loving caring significant other who I miss dearly and deeply. Doing somewhat better, as good as possible but
    will never get over it completely. I am blessed and grateful for so much though.

    HUGS, Prayers, and Love to you,
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    949 days ago
    Happy Birthday to you and many many more. I'm very happy to hear the good news about your nephew. Happy New Year.
    955 days ago
    emoticon Happy Belated Birthday! emoticon

    I'm so glad to hear that Perrin is receiving such excellent care! emoticon
    955 days ago
    Great News Carolyn, and a happy belated birthday to you. Thank you for updating us, I have been thinking of him and you. hugs and blessings to you -- Betsy
    956 days ago
    You have no idea how happy I am to hear that news! I know there is still so much unknown, but what an inspiration he is! Maybe as a side career he'll do motivational speaking. I already know I'd watch a TED talk by someone with his positive spirit. May he continues to astonish you all with his resiliency and progress!

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    Comment edited on: 12/30/2017 8:05:09 PM
    Hope you had a lovely birthday. Happy belated birthday wishes!

    Thanks for the update on your nephew, Perrin. So happy it's good news, even though we don't just yet know how good this good news is going to be. Continued prayers for the best possible outcome.

    Your expression "...I'm missing all y'all's news." made me smile. A little bit of Georgia there?

    Gratitude is what I'm going to focus on in 2018. There is so much to be thankful for!

    Wishing you a happy, healthy, amazing new year!
    956 days ago
    Happy Birthday Carolyn.
    Shocked to hear about Perrin, but doctors really don't know all of what can heal and how as each person is different. Positive attitudes, effort and proper precautions-not fear of trying help. I look at Erik and think Perrin has a good chance to be with his family and love on them like he did before-maybe more because he came so close to losing them.
    Hugs, Birthday Blessings and good luck with BEING MORE POSITIVE/seeing the brighter side of things. I'm working on that too. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon for you, Perrin and all your family.
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    956 days ago
  • DESIREE672
    Happy Belated Birthday, Carolyn! emoticon

    “Will be able to take care of himself,” That sounds very good!

    There are definitely lessons in surprising places. It looks like a great start to 2018 for you!

    Looking forward to the 108 bells on NHK tonight! I love the snowy temple scenes!
    956 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/30/2017 10:45:50 AM
    emoticon Happy Birthday Carolyn, I hope you had a great day.

    Your nephew has a wonderful attitude, It will take him far in life. emoticon
    957 days ago
    I am so pleased to hear that Perrin is recovering well and his wife is home with their baby now. May Perrin continue to be positive with good results with his rehab therapy.

    Many many happy returns as you celebrate your birthday today. I do hope the family spoiled you as you should be and this will be a day to put in your book of good memories.

    Love and Hugs Susan emoticon emoticon emoticon
    957 days ago
    Such wonderful news about Perrin! Hurrah!

    Sorry I missed your birthday - hope it a good one, despite the other worries.
    957 days ago
    Oh sweet Carolyn I am so happy for Perrin those are blessings from God & all the prayers. We must continue to pray for him. Through his accident you are seeing life in a new way that is a blessing that came out of this also. Your children will find their way with careers.Yes it is a worry with North Korea that would make me cringe also having a child so close their.
    Take care enjoy your family they are healthy & safe that is also a big blessing
    957 days ago
  • HEYRED221
    Carolyn such excellent news about your nephew. Sending you a big hug and tons of love and hoping you had a wonderful Christmas with your family.

    And Happy Birthday too! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

    957 days ago
    Happy Birthday. Great news about Perrin. I hope the coming year brings more great news and Joy and Peace.
    957 days ago
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    Glad to hear this, Carolyn... so sorry about Perrin's accident.

    Attitude really is everything, isn't it.

    hugs, Sue
    957 days ago
    Happy birthday! It is good to hear that your nephew is doing well under the circumstances. A good attitude is very important. emoticon
    957 days ago
    Carolyn, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Your nephew could teach me a few things with his attitude as well. Thank you for sharing an update on his health and especially sharing his spirit. I am like you so it is very helpful for me to hear about those who find the joy and positivity in even the worst crises. I hope you enjoy your very special day today and have a wonderful New Year!
    957 days ago
    I'm glad the surgery went well and there is such good hope for him in the time to come. Hoping the best for you all dear.
    957 days ago
    Very happy for your good news and the message you've absorbed from it too . . . continuous learning makes our lives evolve continuously!!
    957 days ago
    Happy Birthday Carolyn may you enjoy many more years of birthdays in good health and spirits. Enjoy your day with your family and go ahead,-------- have a piece of the Birthday Cake!!

    Thank you so much for blogging about Perrin. As a few have already said, I reiterate that attitude is everything and the more positive it is the more likely he will recover swiftly and fully. Oh Dear God let it be true that Perrin will not be living in a wheelchair for the rest of his life and thank you God for saving him and his wife and for keeping the baby safe.

    I think your accounting of Perrin's attitude has made many of us take a look at our's and for that I thank you. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers. I pray this additional stress doesn't worsen your sister's condition.

    Take care of yourself and safe travels to the US.

    957 days ago
    That truly is great news... and what a blessing to find the good news in a tragedy like he experienced. Thank you for the update as it had weighed heavy on my mind. Hugs to you sweet Carolyn on your birthday and EVERYDAY! 2018 is going to be your year... I just know it!

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    957 days ago
    Happy birthday, Carolyn! emoticon
    The news regarding Perrin is so promising. I can see he has a great attitude and is surrounded by love. emoticon
    957 days ago
    Yes!! Prayers were answered! Your attitude is so inspiring!! Thank you. Love. Gloria
    957 days ago
    Carolyn -

    So glad to hear that your nephew is doing better. The spirit can do amazing things and will do much to help in his recovery.

    And Happy Birthday to you!!! Sending good thoughts and best wishes to you!!

    957 days ago
    Thank you for updating us on Perrin's progress AND his attitude and its effect on you. Your describing his mindset in response to the situation as seemingly "just having to deal with another hard day" is inspirational! May we both view our challenges in the coming year with such a positive mindset! Wishing you joy for your family holiday celebrations, and a most wonderful birthday and year ahead, dear friend of heart and mind. emoticon emoticon emoticon
    957 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2017 9:51:56 AM
    First of all, Happy Birthday! Another December child. My birthday was yesterday - 68 for me! The years just keep coming and for that I am very grateful.

    Next, what wonderful news about Perrin. Yes, I believe his attitude will get him through this and I, too, believe he will walk again. He may have difficulties but he sounds like an amazing young man who has the determination to get it done! I'm also happy to hear that the hospital is getting him up daily. One thing I learned from my own knee replacement surgery is that you need to be mobile as quickly as possible. The more you are, the quicker and more completely you heal. Also how great that the mom is able to be at home now with her little girl.

    I am also so happy to hear that this has helped you and your own attitude. I have the ability to fall into my own "pity party" as my mom would say. The why me's hit every now and then but I try hard to change my thinking to why not me and what can I do about it.

    Have a wonderful time with your family. I had a nice dinner out with three of my children last night and feel truly blessed at this particular moment! Thanks for your message! You are an inspiration.
    957 days ago
    Happy birthday!🎂
    Happy to hear about your nephew’s good progress and attitude.
    He probably is happy to be alive and has a ‘let’s do it’ frame of mind.
    Nothing like a near death experience to fundamentally change one’s outlook on life.
    Take care of yourself!
    957 days ago
    I am overjoyed to hear the positive news about Perrin. That's wonderful. Prayers continue and for sure, his indominitable spirit is a huge factor.

    Happy Birthday to you! emoticon
    957 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2017 9:41:58 AM
    I'm so happy and relieved to hear that the prognosis for Perrin is good. It's amazing what the human body is capable of doing and recovering from, and how the mindset of the person inhabiting the body can affect that.

    957 days ago
    Happy Birthday! So glad to hear your nephew is doing well. Continuing prayers for you and your family!

    957 days ago
  • EISSA7
    Happy Birthday!! It is lovely that your family will all be together to help you celebrate YOU! So glad that the news about Perrin is positive; inspirational stories of inner strength are all around us....thanks for sharing Perrin’s! emoticon emoticon
    957 days ago
    Awwww, the best kind of news to help you celebrate. Happy Birthday! I hope it’s a delight...birthdays are meant to be celebrated. Your Perrin is strength, moxie and determination...and so much more. He understands that life is meant to be lived...worry sure sucks the joy and energy out of living. One so young is worthy to emulate, for he’s figured out waaaay more than many ever will.

    Love and hugs on your birthday, cheers to Perrin and his news. Prayers for all...
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    957 days ago
    Happy Birthday!
    957 days ago
    Happy Birthday, Carolyn! emoticon emoticon

    That's good news about your nephew and it sounds like he is keep a positive attitude which has to be hard but it's also going to help him get through this. And it sounds like his positivity is inspiring you. Inspiration can come to us in the most unexpected ways.

    All the best to you and your Family in the New Year!


    957 days ago
  • PCOH051610
    Yay! I’m so happy you’ve blogged again as your blogs are like a breath of fresh air. So many people pretend their lives are all sunshine and roses - unlike yourself who writes from the heart.

    Double yay for the good news regarding your nephew. His positive outlook will make things a whole lot easier for everybody.

    And, triple yay because it’s your birthday! emoticon emoticon emoticon
    957 days ago
  • SEAGLASS1215

    Thanks so much for the update on Perrin, I will continue to keep him in my thoughts. I admire his positive attitude in facing such a life altering event.
    957 days ago
    Thank you for the update, Carolyn, Perrin's progress sounds promising, and I hope his healing continues this way.
    His mental toughness and positive attitude is exceptional - and also his best chance for optimal recovery, and decreasing mental pain for himself and his loved ones.
    Thank you for sharing, he inspires me too to be grateful, to appreciate my life and the people who share my world.
    957 days ago

    Comment edited on: 12/29/2017 4:39:01 AM
  • WHITE-2
    Thank you for the update! And for sharing your thoughts
    957 days ago
    That's great news, Carolyn! Thank you for making the time to let us know. I had been praying for and wondering about Perrin.

    and as for you...

    Happy Birthday!
    957 days ago
  • no profile photo BOOKREADER8
    Attitude is everything.
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    957 days ago
    Fantastic news all around. And a very happy Birthday to you snd a very hapoy new year.
    957 days ago
    Happy Birthday! The upbeat news about your nephew is a great birthday present!

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    957 days ago
    That is great to hear. Attitude is a major factor in recovery and it sounds like Perrin has a a great one.
    957 days ago
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