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Self Loathing is a Motivator

Monday, April 23, 2018

Some times the things people say to one another in the name of encouragement is baffling. I saw a post this morning where a girl posted her before pictures with proclamations of disgust over her appearance. Then the "don't be so hard on yourself" posters arrive to warn us all about the dangers of not being more positive. Well maybe that works for some. I used a different approach to getting to my goal weight.

Of course she is sad and miserable over her appearance. Her before photos look like my before photos. I remember the nightmares. I still have the nightmares. I dream about binging and being fat all over again. I felt terrible about myself. I can sympathize with where she is and how she feels. Saying you shouldn't be so hard on yourself is in the same vein as "just accept it, dear". Let that disgust fuel you. I did mine. It's what got me to the gym every day instead of eating ice cream and drinking beer.

There will come a time- I call it the scale tipping point (no pun intended) when your progress will become your momentum. Before and after pictures are key! I also relied on other peoples' before and after pictures. Don't compare? Please. Definitely compare! If they can do it so can you and I. I'm getting workout tips from a lady in her 60s because I LOVE her abs. (wonderful after photos!) "Slow and steady" she says. In her 60s! Surround yourself with people heading in your direction or already at your destination. Learn to spot the ones who are going to sabotage your efforts. That includes those well-meaning people who tell you not to be hard on yourself. Yes, be hard on yourself. The longer you stand in the kitchen sneakily gorging on cookies when you think no one knows, the longer you are holding yourself back from progress. That version of yourself is the one who says you are ok where you are. The one who feels sorry for itself. That is not the real genuine you. The real you is under all that fat. When you get to a point you start to see that real and genuine you hiding in there you start to feel self love and that will carry you the rest of your way. At least that's how it is working out for me. Maybe you are into all that namaste sh**. If that works for you, great. In the mean time I am going to the gym to lift some weights because muscles are sexy and I like to look at myself in the mirror now. #pissnvinegar #fatsucks
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  • FLGIRL1234
    OMG I love this blog! YES girl YES!
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    889 days ago
    J11617 I have had the same problem in the past. I get to a point and it's "good enough". I'm not sure why I come to the conclusion I am ok in that place. I know I am still not happy where I am, but I just peter out. This time I kept going and made it to my goal. This time momentum carried me forward. The only real difference I can think of is I did this for myself, not because I wanted the approval of someone else. At first I was angry and disgusted with myself and it got me started, but loving the person I was becoming kept me motivated. I am passing my goal now and going further than I ever thought I could. This is just the beginning. Don't give up. Get to the really good stuff!
    912 days ago
    Interesting perspective. Thanks for making your point.
    912 days ago
  • EISSA7
    Very well said! emoticon
    913 days ago
    Before & after pictures truly motivate me as well. Using others progress as a “I can do this” mantra is inspiring, agreed. Good for you for finding your “hot button” - thank you for your honesting in this blog and putting it all out there!
    913 days ago
  • -POOKIE-
    Body acceptance is one thing. But if you want to improve your health and appearance then it isn't a bad thing to not be at the accepting stage. And motivation to get to there.
    913 days ago
  • J11617
    What a great insight!! I'm using my self- loathing as a motivator at the moment. But then, there are also those days where I'm happy with myself and think I don't need to change... THAT'S when my motivation disappears...
    913 days ago
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