Maybe Janet Jackson was Wrong???
Monday, June 11, 2018
It’s talked about a lot in the world of weight loss.
You can lose it, gain it, take it, I have even heard of exercising it.
Curb those cravings, control that hunger, is very popular verbage on all things pushed toward those of us looking to drop the LBs. Book covers tout different ways of taking control of not only our appetites but our lives.
But what if it’s not about control at all? What if it’s really about letting go of all of the bullsh*t? Especially when regarding our mental health, because isn’t that kind of where real lasting weight loss has to start, getting the ol’ gray matter on board?
How about learning to just let go of all the crap that does not matter that, for some stupid reason, we have convinced ourselves matters so very much?
Now don’t get it twisted. I know Santa isn’t real, there isn’t a tooth fairy and that weight doesn’t just fall off because we want it to. I am well aware we must do the right things and do them with consistency.
However, isn’t it so much easier to do that when we realize that some of the things we think we can control are dumb and not worth the stress? I’m talking about all the stuff that makes us turn to food in the first place. The most prominent example in my own life is all the time I spend trying to control other people’s reactions to me and how they feel about me. All the time and effort (my god the Herculean effort), I put forth in trying to make sure everyone likes me, doesn’t look at me funny (because lord knows those indiscernible looks torture me, what was that raised eyebrow for??), but still thinks I’m funny, keeping everyone happy around me at all times is simply exhausting. And when my mind is tired and I don’t want to think any more about rehashing the days (potentially weird, but probably fine) conversations I had with bizarre co-workers, uptight clients, loved but often needy family, and treasured but dramatic friends I turn to food to shut out all the BS in my head.
What if I don’t try and control all that? What if I focus on realizing that these things I think about hours after they happen don’t need to be thought about? I most certainly believe these people I freak out over are not sitting at home stressing out over the e-mail convo we had two days ago like I am. These are stupid things to think about. These are things that DO NOT MATTER. It will not kill any of these people to hear the word no once in a while.
I could say “no” instead of saying yes because I am just trying to control how someone feels about me and I think “yes” will make them like me/ not get annoyed with me. It would be glorious to not please the people for once.
I think giving up control and just saying SCREW IT is the healthiest thing we can do sometimes.
Zero ducks given could be the key to my weight loss these last couple of weeks.
…..and if you don’t know what ducks is a sub for…well, just look at the internet for five seconds, you’ll see