We often feel that taking time out for ourselves is selfish. We have been taught that we must work hard to deserve health and happiness. We put pressure on ourselves to be perfect. To be patient and nurturing parents. Doting and supportive partners. Loyal and sociable family members and friends. Hard working employees. We struggle to find time amongst all this to just stop and do something for ourselves.
Up until recently, I was so lost in all of this ‘busyness’ that it never crossed my mind that spending time with myself was important, let alone even an option. I’ve always been someone who’s juggled lots of balls and who’s held high expectations for herself.
It wasn’t until I started to notice some warning signs that I realized that something needed to change. I had to start putting myself first occasionally. I had to start making time for me.
Now this realization was a hard one for me. It didn’t come naturally. I suspect that if you are reading this you might feel the same way.
It helped me to remember the following six things whenever I stopped consciously making Me Time a priority.
Taking good care of ourselves puts us in a better position to help and be of service to others. If we are exhausted, unwell, and unhappy – we are generally not in the best position to support and care for others. If we feel healthy, happy, and energized – we are generally in a much better position to love, support and nurture others.
If you value taking time out for yourself, it can suggest that you value and respect yourself. Those around you are likely to pick up on this, and value and respect you in return. If you are constantly on the go, always doing things for others, and never taking the time to prioritize taking care of yourself – people are likely to pick up on this and treat you accordingly.
As caring and compassionate people, we want the very best for our loved ones. We want them to look after themselves. We want them to love and respect themselves, and to place value on their own lives. By role modeling the importance of taking time out for ourselves, we are teaching them how important it is for them to also value, care for, and love themselves.
By prioritizing Me Time, you will learn to just ‘be’ and to enjoy your own company. If you allow yourself quiet time, just for you, it can help you get to know yourself better. To be more ‘in tune’ with your psyche and body. More self-aware. More open to self-growth.
When you make time to have quiet moments with yourself, it encourages you to stop and take time out from the chaos around us. A lot of the time, we are so busy that our poor minds don’t get time to process or digest what has been happening and how we have been feeling. As a result, people who don’t prioritize Me Time can sometimes have trouble ‘shutting down’ when it comes to bedtime – this can be because it’s the first quiet moment their mind has had to process or acknowledge their thoughts and feelings. Those who priorities Me Time, might find they can go to sleep more easily as they’ve had time to think and feel before heading to bed.
People who don’t prioritize Me Time often feel exhausted rushed, and run down. They find that when they make more time for themselves, they start to feel more energized, healthy, patient, creative, inspired, clear-headed and productive.