It's a Dawg Life, Do Yourself a Favor
Sunday, July 29, 2018
Nothing new here, but it came to mind yesterday. Someone shared with me that she is unhappy with the way she looks. I thought back to my own experience when I was unhappy with how I looked.
I was close to 200 pounds. Inactive. I was gaining and losing the same 15 pounds and at that moment I was at the highest weight I'd ever been. Not happy. My clothes didn't fit right. I hated pants because they were tight around the waist. The buttons on my blouses pulled. Nothing looked right.
Not sure if I read it, someone said something to me, or if I came to it on my own, but I had the insight somehow that the number on the tag on the clothes I was buying had tremendous power over me. I didn't want to admit that I needed to wear a size 18 and I couldn't bring myself to buy that size. Consequently, I was wearing clothes that were a size too small.
I went shopping. I bought a couple of pairs of neutral slacks that fit and looked good. I went through my closet and tossed all the tops and blouses that didn't fit right or just didn't flatter me. I put together outfits that looked good on my morbidly obese body. I got a mani/pedi. I had my eyebrows waxed. I got a stylish hair cut.
I was still almost 200 pounds. I was not frumpy any more. I started getting compliments. I felt better about myself.
And it got easier to stick to a diet because I felt better about myself. As I lost weight, it got easier to exercise - limited as that exercise was. And then the size 18 slacks were too big and the size 16 slacks fit comfortably. It became a virtuous cycle. I felt good about myself. I wanted more of feeling good and looking good, so I was motivated to stick to my diet. The more I dieted, the more I felt good. Then exercising got easier. The more I exercised, the more energy I had, the more I wanted to exercise.
So this is my advice to anyone who feels like I did:
Ignore the size tag. Buy clothes that fit and flatter. Baggy, tent-like clothes are not flattering. They don't hide anything and everyone knows you are overweight anyway. Chances are, the people who are judging you are overweight, too. (How dare they judge you anyway. Ignore them. They aren't worth your time.)
Accentuate your best feature. For me it is a long waist. Others might be an hourglass figure, or dynamite legs.
Chose one or two colors that really make you look good and stick with them.
Can't afford a lot? Buy one or two basics (pants, skirts) and wash them over and over. No one will notice. Really. They won't. I've been doing it for years.
Make yourself look good and feel good all the time, not just when you go to work. When you do housework. When you go to the gym. When you run errands. When you are just hanging around the house.
You'll feel better about yourself and it will become easier to treat yourself better. So do yourself a favor and buy some clothes that fit and flatter.