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My Life as a Dawg, Between the Ears

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

The 25th Annual Do As Little As Possible Sisters Vacation may be the most successful at doing as little as possible. We haven't gotten in the car to do anything since Sunday. Not even mani/pedis.

The Big Event was a visit from OVERWORKEDJANET yesterday. She lives about a half hour away from my hometown and we make the effort for a meet up when I'm down for more than a day or two. She came for lunch and we had a good visit.

I hauled myself out for another run today. It was hot. And muggy. I took a few walking breaks. Got three miles in at a waddling pace. I'm glad I went despite the heat.

I've been reading a more recent version of the book that ONEKIDSMOM is reading. She's reading The Solution by Laurel Mellin. I'm reading The 3-Day Solution by the same. It's more of a how-to. She suggests trying her method for 3 days to see if it makes a difference. She is confident that those who follow it will feel better and will lose weight, and consequently will want to continue.

I do want to lose weight. I set a goal to lose 15 pounds by the end of 2018, but I think this may get to my anxiety issues, which trigger me to stress eat. I wake up in the middle of the night and start worrying about foolishness. I'm weary of being nervous and having knots in my stomach.

I've done cognitive behavior therapy twice and both times were extremely helpful. However, I definitely need to get to the root of what is triggering the anxiety. Talk therapy is not helpful. I do find that you guys are helpful, though. Also, Mellin offers online support and groups for those who want to go all-in on her process. Not sure if I'll go down that road. I'm still reading the book and thinking it through.

Weight loss is definitely about calories in vs calories out. But a big part of controlling calories in is what happens between your ears.

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    Weight loss is definitely about calories in vs calories out. But a big part of controlling calories in is what happens between your ears.

    I was within 15 pounds of my goal this time last year … this year I am 50 !@#$% pounds away.

    Fear of success???
    Fear of completion???

    Hmmm … I think it is more little to no coping skills when life hits me upside the head.
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  • NANCY-
    Sometimes we just need to kick back and do nothing. :)
    I hear you about weight loss... several rounds of Beck .... still something is missing, I hope we find it.
    804 days ago
    Following this book to. OKM is hitting a nerve.

    As to the driveby...what at hoot being with you and your sister.
    Sparkers, they are 2 fun peas in a pod!

    804 days ago
    What's going on between my ears? Have to jot it down and see what's causing this hunger!
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    I am impressed that you ran. Yep it’s between the ears. Problem is it transfers to our gut... as in the churning, burning lump that sits there... and wants to be fed, both literally and figuratively! I started going to a DBT group recently and yesterday we were talking about being “stuck”, and the difference between pain and suffering... and how to accept reality and cope with whichever level of “discomfort” is present... whether it’s finding a solution or enduring, and how to best DO each...
    804 days ago
    I empathize with getting to the root of the trigger(s) that prevent us from being the best versions of ourselves.


    … and doing the best we can with what we have, where we are.
    805 days ago

    Comment edited on: 8/15/2018 8:49:59 PM
    I will go along with what Onekid'smom just said in her post LOL since it seems the book started with her!
    805 days ago
    YOu are right that naming and dealing with our anxiety trigger is definitely what worked for me. Does it completely solve the problem? Well, not for me, but it does allow me to be aware of anxiety triggers and dealing w/them.

    Glad you got to visit w/OJ!
    805 days ago
    I have anxiety too. I think we might work in similar environments. I work at a human services department. We do everything from child welfare to mental health and substance use counseling and department of aging programs. Every day presents a boat load of opportunities to experience anxiety. 😉
    I have tried many things. I regularly meditate. I have done talk therapy multiple times. All helped. Right now, frequent paced breathing where I exhale longer than I inhale helps immensely. With much empathy, and hoping for All the best for you.
    805 days ago
    Oh yeah: I'm enjoying the Mellin review by OKM because absolutely it's all between the ears!! Don't forget to give yourself a pat on the head now and then -- and scratches behind BOTH ears!!
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    This is the second blog I've read this week regarding this book. I'm going to see if the library here can get a copy so I can read it. Sounds interesting. Good for you getting in that run!! emoticon
    805 days ago
    "a big part of controlling calories in is what happens between your ears. " Amen to that!

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