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Hard Summer

Thursday, September 13, 2018

This summer has been incredibly difficult as my future father in law has had a series of strokes and TIAs, his mind is pretty much gone. He has spent a lot of the summer in the hospital and was going to go into a rehab facility. He turned violent in the hospital and had to have security called twice. They finally decided to send him home... which is crazy. My future MIL is not in a position to take care of him at all.

He came out of the bathroom the other day carrying a knife and a fishing pole. Tonight he is sitting on the lawnmower threatening to blow it up. Police have had to be called. Now the big issue is that I am in MN and all this is happening in IA. Since my son is in school I cannot pack up and go with him to help out.

The stress and loneliness is incredible. Luckily I started a new job this past week and have been kept pretty busy. I am doing pretty well on avoiding stress eating, but today I just sat on my rear end rather than exercising. Tomorrow I will have to take a nice walk at the state park to get some extra steps in. I am so worried about what is going on down there. I am hoping that he is put in a home after this - there is no way he should be left at home with his wife at this time - there is no telling what he is going to do to himself, her or the house. In fact yesterday, he tried to hit my fiance' and people got in between them.

It is frightening that he has no idea what he is doing or what is happening and that this is how so many people are going to remember him rather than the person he was. His 30 year old grandson is watching this decline and is having a very difficult time with it.

If anyone has ideas on how to help us all get through this, it would be very much appreciated.
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  • OTEN36
    I hope things are better for you and your family.
    I also live in Minnesota and trying to bet back on track after losing weight.
    A fresh start is coming soon.
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    709 days ago
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    I am so sorry to hear of this difficult and stressful family situation. Thoughts and prayers with you and your family as you go through this.
    769 days ago
  • JAMER123
    Check into getting a social worker to help with placement in the right facility. I am so sorry you are having to worry or deal with this. It's so hard to see a parent go down hill so quickly. The other suggestion (not what I totally believe in) is talk to his Dr. and find out if there is a medication to help him calm down. Just a couple of thoughts. After working in the health care profession for many yrs. I have seen the worst and the best outcomes with proper treatment. Good luck and God bless.
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    769 days ago
    Hugs to you
    769 days ago
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    769 days ago
    I'm so sorry. A similar situation occurred with my father. He got very violent and attacked everyone that came near him, including trying to kill my mom. He was never like that before and it was sad and scary. In the end he ended up in a care facility. But my suggestion to you is protect yourself. Unstable people are bound to do anything.I hope things get better soon. emoticon
    769 days ago
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