Thursday, September 13, 2018
This summer has been incredibly difficult as my future father in law has had a series of strokes and TIAs, his mind is pretty much gone. He has spent a lot of the summer in the hospital and was going to go into a rehab facility. He turned violent in the hospital and had to have security called twice. They finally decided to send him home... which is crazy. My future MIL is not in a position to take care of him at all.
He came out of the bathroom the other day carrying a knife and a fishing pole. Tonight he is sitting on the lawnmower threatening to blow it up. Police have had to be called. Now the big issue is that I am in MN and all this is happening in IA. Since my son is in school I cannot pack up and go with him to help out.
The stress and loneliness is incredible. Luckily I started a new job this past week and have been kept pretty busy. I am doing pretty well on avoiding stress eating, but today I just sat on my rear end rather than exercising. Tomorrow I will have to take a nice walk at the state park to get some extra steps in. I am so worried about what is going on down there. I am hoping that he is put in a home after this - there is no way he should be left at home with his wife at this time - there is no telling what he is going to do to himself, her or the house. In fact yesterday, he tried to hit my fiance' and people got in between them.
It is frightening that he has no idea what he is doing or what is happening and that this is how so many people are going to remember him rather than the person he was. His 30 year old grandson is watching this decline and is having a very difficult time with it.
If anyone has ideas on how to help us all get through this, it would be very much appreciated.