My Adventures in Spark Land...Day 74 of 365 days...support
Monday, October 15, 2018
As I was thinking of what to blog today, I looked at Day 23 of a pin entitled '31 days of self-care'. It asked what does your support system look like? How can you make it stronger?
When I was in 1-6 grade, there were 9 kids in my whole grade. 7-12 grade 3 elementary schools combined into one huge class of maybe 60 kids but my support system was always my family because no one understood me or accepted me. I went off to a 2 year college where people understood and accepted me for the 1st time in my life. Later I got a job and moved to a larger area where people accepted me for me, they supported me, they understood me. When I was raped and going through my pregnancy, friends were there for me and family was not yet when my son was born, mom moved us here where we had no support.
21 years have past. My son is in college. I am on a waiting list to move back to the city I lived in 21 years ago.
Yesterday my dad's sister, her husband, my son, and were sitting eating. My aunt is very upset over my choice to move back. She said it's for selfish reasons. I sat and explained that I have no support here. Why should I stay here and move into a one bedroom low income place that is crap. The one bedroom place has not been remodeled since the 70's. It was meant for low-income elderly and has turned into a place for low income drug dealers where the cops are called all the time. The apartments are trash. My mom died, dad's in assistant living, my brother and family live 1 hour away, my other brother will be moving soon too, my son is 2 hours away. Why should I stay here just because she comes up to see my dad 4 times a year? Why not go where the low-income place has just been remodeled, where I am closer to things. Where I found people are more accepting, understanding, and supporting? Where I maybe happier? Yes life has changed in the last 21 years and it maybe making new supportive friends. But a larger area will provide that.
The best thing about cyber supportive friends are, they go wherever I go!
Supportive people are very important to me!
Number 38 of my 50 ways to practice self-love is watch a funny movie and laugh and number 49 is have a good cry. Hallmark movies do both for me.
Here are 2 quotes .
it's not for
Don't look for
someone who will solve
all your problems.
Look for someone who
won't let you face
I think people often forget this!
Thanks for reading my blog.
PS-driving in snow yesterday and waking up to snow covered everything kind of made me go from Boo fever to snow snuggle up and stay warm fever!