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My Adventures in Spark Land...Day 76 out of 365 days...things I am good at.

Wednesday, October 17, 2018

I am looking into self-care. When I joined SP, I was clueless what self-care was. My mom had told me so often I was selfish, self-centered, etc so often then I thought self-care was a bad thing. I am learning it's a good thing.

So here is another question a came across while looking into self-care: What things are you really good at?

This is hard for me to answer. Thinking about this, I think it is really good to tell your friends and family what they are good at because it boast their confidence and uplifts them and helps them to be a better person. When I think about this, I can think of tons of uplifting things my friends from college and Lacrosse told me I was good at and I felt good about myself but my family and people around me are so fast to tell me and others what we are bad at that I do feel bad about myself.

Please I don't mean this as a negative blog! Just exploring the question with you all!

Here's a pour example but it's true. My son moved into a house for his last 2 1/2 years of college a year plus ago and found out he loved to cook. At the age of 20, he took on making the Thanksgiving and Christmas meal. Now no one but my mom and grandma (both died) has even taken on this task before. Instead of saying positive things to my son, they all told him negative things. Including telling the kid he made too much food and complained because he didn't have the meal ready on time down to the ham was not cut right to they rather have hot apple cider then the cute hot cocoa bar he set up!

I am just saying that yes a person does know if he or she is really good at something. I think it's important to tell people and give them the boost they need to keep feeling good about doing it.

Here's another example I personally think my son is a good cook and last summer I handed all the cooking over to him. At first my son was made at me because his girlfriend had him thinking doing all the cooking for me was a bad thing. She thinks her mom, step mom, and dad treat her like a maid so she was projecting her ill feeling about them asking her to cook meals for them unto my son. But after we talked, my son realized I wasn't doing it as a negative thing rather I knew he liked to cook and I wanted him to do what he liked to do last summer. He told me this summer his new housemate loves to cook. He was telling me Sunday he got all the stuff to make some kind of pie but hadn't had the time to make it yet. His new housemate had time so she surprised him and made it for him!

Here are just a few things people (not family) have told me I am good at:
*Cross stitch
*Working with kids
*Trying new things

Thank you for reading my blog.

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    698 days ago
    I think you are great at so many, many things. The one thing that really stands out for me is, with all the road blocks that your mom and grandmom put in front of you while your DS was growing up. Is what a great Mom you are. Fighting for him all those years, encouraging him, talking with him, teaching him, loving him, etc. All without having a role model to be a great Mom. YOU ROCK!!! emoticon emoticon
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    702 days ago
    Take a look at yourself through the eyes of a friend. What good things would your friend have to say about you? There's nothing wrong with giving yourself credit for the things you have talent .Every time you realize that you are good at something or have a special talent, write it down. I think it won't be long before you have a long list.

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    702 days ago
    I definitely can see that you are good at trying new things - and telling us about them - thank you!
    702 days ago
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    You wrote a great blog! You can add writing to your list. emoticon
    702 days ago
    Great for pointing out what you are good at. The is emoticon emoticon
    702 days ago
    "I think it is really good to tell your friends and family what they are good at because it boast their confidence and uplifts them and helps them to be a better person." Why don't you do this for yourself? Boost your own confidence. Make yourself a better person. Yes, your son is great at all he is great at, but you have so many beautiful and wonderful talents..... you are great at seeing beauty in nature and then photographing it to share. You are creative. You are kind and sensitive. You are good at cheering people up. You are a good listener. You are good as so many things. so, once in awhile, dont' rely on what others think or thought you were good at, find it in what you think you are good at!!
    702 days ago
    News flash: you can't make too much food for Thanksgiving! Everybody can take some home and then you'll still have leftovers for sandwiches, turkey pot pie, soup, and the freezer. And one thing I've learned about families and holiday dinners, I never give an exact time, or if I do, it's a range ("we'll plan to eat sometime between 4 and 5). My father-in-law used to have a fit and mutter and pout if his holiday dinners weren't on the table exactly when whoever was hosting it gave a time it would be served! My mother, when asked when we would eat, would say, "when it's ready."

    Sounds like the new housemate is very thoughtful. You never know, maybe as your son gets to know her, the GF will be history.
    702 days ago
    Seems always easier to think of things someone else is good at then ourselves.

    702 days ago
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    Good for you. You did pinpoint things that you do well.
    702 days ago
    I think it’s hard to think of things you’re good at. Great job!!
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    Good job
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