My Adventures in Spark Land...Day 76 out of 365 days...things I am good at.
Wednesday, October 17, 2018
I am looking into self-care. When I joined SP, I was clueless what self-care was. My mom had told me so often I was selfish, self-centered, etc so often then I thought self-care was a bad thing. I am learning it's a good thing.
So here is another question a came across while looking into self-care: What things are you really good at?
This is hard for me to answer. Thinking about this, I think it is really good to tell your friends and family what they are good at because it boast their confidence and uplifts them and helps them to be a better person. When I think about this, I can think of tons of uplifting things my friends from college and Lacrosse told me I was good at and I felt good about myself but my family and people around me are so fast to tell me and others what we are bad at that I do feel bad about myself.
Please I don't mean this as a negative blog! Just exploring the question with you all!
Here's a pour example but it's true. My son moved into a house for his last 2 1/2 years of college a year plus ago and found out he loved to cook. At the age of 20, he took on making the Thanksgiving and Christmas meal. Now no one but my mom and grandma (both died) has even taken on this task before. Instead of saying positive things to my son, they all told him negative things. Including telling the kid he made too much food and complained because he didn't have the meal ready on time down to the ham was not cut right to they rather have hot apple cider then the cute hot cocoa bar he set up!
I am just saying that yes a person does know if he or she is really good at something. I think it's important to tell people and give them the boost they need to keep feeling good about doing it.
Here's another example I personally think my son is a good cook and last summer I handed all the cooking over to him. At first my son was made at me because his girlfriend had him thinking doing all the cooking for me was a bad thing. She thinks her mom, step mom, and dad treat her like a maid so she was projecting her ill feeling about them asking her to cook meals for them unto my son. But after we talked, my son realized I wasn't doing it as a negative thing rather I knew he liked to cook and I wanted him to do what he liked to do last summer. He told me this summer his new housemate loves to cook. He was telling me Sunday he got all the stuff to make some kind of pie but hadn't had the time to make it yet. His new housemate had time so she surprised him and made it for him!
Here are just a few things people (not family) have told me I am good at:
*Working with kids
*Trying new things
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