First entry and it's all about rewards...
Wednesday, January 30, 2019
I've never blogged, wanted to keep my privacy, etc. But today I've decided to do some research to find out how I can improve my health situation. I identified 3 goals on my start page that I have chronic problems with. Night eating, looking at myself in the mirror and saying an affirmation, and exercise. They're each attached to an actual physical or mental issue, but I know they're also as much habit as anything else. I started these particular goals about a month ago and these are the three I have problems with.
So, I did some research on Sparkpeople about rewards. I think I can do better.
The night eating is related to working weird shifts for so many years, and blood sugar issues. I already know I need a higher fat snack at night when I take my meds. The problem is I will add to the planned healthy snack, or eat in my sleep. I've worked on this issue for decades, so now I'm going to try a positive reward. It works for training dogs, and I THINK I'm smarter than that! LOL So, if I succeed, every morning, I put a quarter in the piggy bank. When it's full, I get a pedicure.
By the way, the article that resonated the most with me was from Dean Anderson, on staying motivated. It talked about why goals and rewards succeed or fail.
The second issue is looking in the mirror and saying an affirmation. I brush my hair, etc., every day, but I HATE looking at myself in the mirror. I have a chronic illness and for so long felt my body had failed me, and I actively hated it. I worked on it in therapy for decades, but I guess I wasn't ready to confront it. Finally I decided it didn't matter what had happened to cause this, I needed to change it. I heard a song randomly on the radio by John Legend that said "perfectly imperfect" and it finally dawned on me. When I was 13, I heard the docs tell my folks I wouldn't live to be 14. I've heard it many times since. But you know what? My body has survived it all. I have challenges, like anyone, but I'm thriving and love my life. Now I can look in the mirror and know that in spite of my bad attitude, my body has kept trying, and succeeding, to live. It's up to me to thrive. So, my reward for doing this is having a cup of tea and meditating in front of my big window, where I watch birds.
The third issue is exercise. I hate it, it causes pain. But I need to be able to do it. I used to love biking, but balance made it unsafe, so last year I bought a recumbent bike for outside. We live on gravel, and I soon found out that wouldn't work, so I bought a trailer to get to paved paths, then the weather turned. I have an inside recumbent, but I never got motivated to use it. So my long term goal is to visit my niece and be able to bike all around her beautiful lake in the park with paved paths. That's years away. So to make a shorter term goal, every time I accomplish the next goal on my recumbent plan, I will give myself a girls day out with my other niece as a reward.
I don't know if any of this will change anything, but we'll see! I'm putting this year to be accountable and if it helps someone else to think about their goals or rewards, that's gravy!