SP Premium
SPICY23
100,000-149,999 SparkPoints 117,433
SparkPoints
 

Embracing Uncertainty - Day 3

Friday, May 17, 2019

Insight: All our obsessions, addictions and compulsions arise from mind cravings.

Some of them may have begun as awkward, inept, means of coping with some stress, upset or discomfort in our lives. But at some point, the 'cure' became as big, or bigger, a problem than the original difficulty. At some later point (now?) we may begin to see that the coping mechanism (self comforting behavior) doesn't really fix the problem (never did) and we start to look for alternative responses to implement.

Question: Do I get my critical nature genetically from my parents and grandparents or is it a learned behavior? Can one truly know? Does it matter?

How does one go about re-programming oneself to be less critical (especially of oneself), less whiny, more deliberately positive and upbeat? Are there obvious steps to take? Is there a clear path to follow?

Reality: Accept that change (Uncertainty) is imminent and one of the only certainties in life.

Is this an oxymoron or a non sequitur? Whatever. This is the heart of Uncertainty. Ergo Uncertainty = Life. Better get used to it. Embrace it. Invite it in for coffee.

Hey Sparklers, I'll put the pot on. Come by for a cuppa.

Peace and Care
Share This Post With Others
Member Comments About This Blog Post
  • LOSEDAPOUNDS
    I so agree about addictions and compulsions. Our tendency to obsess like this can be a curse or blessing. It can make us better workers and parents obsessing until we find a solution. It can also destroy our health -treating the anxiety with a need to keep eating or drinking or whatever. I think self-awareness is key.

    I think so much of this stuff is nature and environment. As the saying goes, genetics loads the gun and environment pulls the trigger. Environment can be anything from stressors, to toxins in the air to learned behavior.

    I raise my coffee cup to you, click your and say "Cheers! To life!"
    147 days ago
  • STANBUSH
    Love your style of writing. Thanks for stopping by. Please Feel Free to do so Frequently!

    YES! Fwords all the way!
    149 days ago
  • SUSMANNIE
    Obsessions, addictions, and compulsions! I feel like you’re looking over my shoulder. I can remember embracing change in life and looking forward to it as a young person. Now in my 60’s, it is a little “skeery” to me. Reprogramming yourself is not easy but so worth the effort! I think you are doing wonderfully to be able to see this.

    Uncertainty can be difficult, and self criticism unfortunately seems to come naturally to someone with high intelligence and equally high sensitivity. And hey, thanks for the coffee!!
    150 days ago
  • GOULDSGRANITE
    emoticon Yep. Me too! Trying hard to embrace the unknown. emoticon

    “If uncertainty is unacceptable to you, it turns into fear. If it is perfectly acceptable, it turns into increased aliveness, alertness, and creativity.”
    ― Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose

    emoticon Cup 'O Joe great! emoticon
    151 days ago
  • NOMI_822
    In my life I have found as you said, the only thing that is certain is incertainty! Life is forever changing so you must roll with the punches!!
    152 days ago
  • _RAMONA
    LOL! Coffee sounds GREAT!
    emoticon

    RE: "How does one go about re-programming oneself to be less critical (especially of oneself)?"
    Speaking from my own journey away from an overly critical 'nature' I've found the only way to really change this is to "accentuate the positive to eliminate the negative." Silly old song line, but actually really true, and it starts with consistent self-care, respect and dignity... the more I sincerely prioritized and met my own needs instead of judging them... no matter how small or big... the less critical I became. As I got better at this the path forward became more and more obvious, and my habit of kindness and acceptance trickled into all of my relationships. Not fast, not easy, but worth the effort.

    With respect to weight-loss specifically:
    ""The body you are given will be yours for the duration of your time here on earth. Love it or hate it or reject it, it is the only one you will receive in this lifetime. It will be with you from the moment you draw your first breath to the last beat of your heart. Since there is a no-refund, no-exchange policy on this body of yours, it is essential that you learn to transform your body from a mere vessel into a beloved partner and lifelong ally , the relationship between you and your body is the most fundamental and important relationship of your lifetime. It is the blueprint from which all your other relationships are built."
    CHERIE CARTER-SCOTT, PH.D"

    emoticon
    152 days ago
  • BUTTONPOPPER1
    "Does it matter?" made me smile. I have these thoughts all the time, wondering where my critical nature came from, trying hard to blame my parents and the culture in the house where I grew up. I have the same questions as you do about how to correct my own negativity.

    Uncertainty is hard, but it's the main rule of life. I like your attitude of embracing it.
    emoticon
    152 days ago
  • no profile photo BONDMANUS2002
    Absolutely
    152 days ago
  • Add Your Comment to the Blog Post

    Log in to post a comment


    Disclaimer: Weight loss results will vary from person to person. No individual result should be seen as a typical result of following the SparkPeople program.