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just heard from a friend - its been a while

Sunday, May 19, 2019

Good Morning; my friend is having problems from her youngest brother who is in his 50's. He is an alcoholic. I have known this friend for over 40 years. She is the oldest and feels responsible for him. I had to give her a come to Jes.. meeting. She was brought up on guilt. I had to tell her I have been there about guilt and how it can drive you. I think most people can understand. She has always lived far from her family, but moved back last year. All these family issues are now showing up. They always existed but she never knew how much. It is overwhelming her. She does not tell any one. When it comes to be too much, she tells me. I gave her tips and techniques to manage him, but the issue is that you can not help him. He has to go to meetings and help himself. He will take you down less you set up boundaries. I can imagine what she is going through. She lives in Scotland so visiting is not something I can do. We are very close, but at times she does not communicate. I hope I get an email back. She is in my prayers and I hope she gets some relief and lets go. Her mother on her death bed told her to take care of her younger brother for her mom. Guilt!!!! I know if she will not get a break from her brother - her health will suffer. I have been there with my son. I had to get a handle on that. Have a good day!!
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    ***SIGH** Having dealt w/both alcoholism and gambling in my extended family, it is absolutely the truth that she needs to set boundaries or she'll become ill. She definitely would benefit from an Al-Anon group if they have it. So sorry, and will remember her in my prayers.
    154 days ago
    Do they have Al-Anon there? It helps when dealing with this situation.
    154 days ago
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